As I stated before, I let this decision up to GOD.
Reductionistic explanations attempt to explain everything but explain nothing. That answer does not tell me why she is "the one."
Your opinion over mine. I'm sure it was not jokingly with some. But guys, when they discover you're about to get married, will usually get about 3 or 4 other guys around you and tell you about the "mistake" you are about to make. This is usually accompanied by laughter and other things. While the problems may and I'm sure are real, they seem to make light of them in terms of the big picture.
I'm really not sure what to make of it. You'll best be able to determine if your friends were joking or serious(or both, perhaps?) because you were there and it was directed at you.
Very well said. You are correct that if you do not feel what you want in life is a marriage, you shouldn't get married. Even though marriage is ordained by GOD, I do not feel like it is for or intended for everyone. But just because it's not for you, does not mean that it's not a good thing for some.
True enough.
Which is why you should get to know them really really well before you enter into a marriage. I have known this girl all my life, and even after that we have been seeing each other for over 2 years.
Known all your life as in you have been around her that long or you just knew her early on but did not always keep in touch and be around her? Because if you have been around her frequently and consistently for your entire life(or most of it) then that shifts this scenario into your favor greatly.
And re-read my comment, my intent was that not encountering problems was rewarding(which you will encounter problems if you're married or not), but working through them together is the rewarding experience.
I don't agree. However, assume working through problems with a spouse is rerwarding. Have you ever considered that there are problems and trials that you may not be able to work through? Have you considered what adverse effects the failure to pass trials and solve problems together may have for your marriage?
I see your point, but explain this one to me. There is a man that has no feelings in is body whatsoever(for some unknown reason). He asks you to explain to him what it is like to be hot and cold. How do you do this? I understand about the television show explanation, but afterall...marriage is an experience. If you are trying to get married, and sit back to watch if it will fail...you should be taking bets on HOW LONG it will take it to fail, not if it will.
Your example doesn't quite work. Marriage is not a feeling, and therefore can be observed. By observing and studying marriage, one can form an idea of what it is like. Although the ability to feel hot and cold is an experience as well as marriage is an experience, they are of different natures. Marriage is tangible, while feelings are much less so.
I couldn't agree more with you on this. My brother is currently in his second marriage and I have talked to him in detail. His first marriage failed miserably. He is all for marriage if it is done in the right context and frame of mind.
After giving this new information about yourself, you now appear to be much more equipped to prepare for marriage. I still think there should still be much more to go before actually marrying, however. I was only able to perceive you in a limited light, before you explained more. Merely responding to me and then not being offended and angry was, in itself, a great indicator of your wisdom.
This is the people's fault that are married, not the marriage itself.
I have relatively few critiques of marriage itself in comparison to the number of critiques I have to common foolishness in marriage decision making, beliefs and actions. However, that is not to say the critisisms of marriage I have are insignificant. They are quite large. Yet, the problems with marriage itself pale in comparison to many people's foolishness regarding marriage.
Are you suggesting that the only way GOD can communicate is to physically come down verbally talk to you?
No.
No, it has been over 4 years since my last "friend" and I have parted ways. I will say this, I am still friends with her now and I can see where I would have had plenty of problems if her and I did get married.
Did you see those problems then, or have you only seen them after you two split? See, this is a concern of mine with love and marriage: One may not see(or worse yet, ignore) problems while in love(infatuated). Difficulty will await you regardless of who you marry. Use foresight and determine the difficulties while in love with someone. The primary problem that I observe most people who are in love and moving towards marriage is that they will only see problems with people they have fallen out of love with. Be careful to avoid this lethal mistake.
It's biblical that marriage is set for by GOD, not really an assumption. It was also changed somewhat is the New Testimate by Jesus. I think that marriage has not changed, but our views of it have.
So Jesus changed marriage somewhat, but it hasn't changed? Either marriage was and is absolute or it is not....
I'll say this: marriage has changed tremendously from the begining of man up until now. In terms of duration, purpose, attitudes towards it, politics, types, and in many other aspects....marriage is radically changed from what it once was. It is...undeniable.
I'm thinking that perhaps you intend to argue that God's version of marriage is the best, or correct one as opposed to arguing that marriage has not changed.
Why would you enter into something that was instituted by GOD without asking his blessing and involving him in it?
Besides marriages often taking place in churches, marriage is almost completely removed from God and religion. Perhaps many do not involve God in marriage because God has little to do with modern marriage. It isn't God's same system, and it isn't very religious anymore(excluding the ceremonial aspect).
The biggest problem with marriage that I see today is that 2 people try it and (even though not from personal experience) it should be much easier with 3
I would think polygamy would add(with each additional partner) increased difficulties to the marriage. Although, I suppose that all depends on the setup.
I'm not going to even start on the gay marriage thing. This is DEFINITELY, POSITIVELY, WITHOUT A DOUBT against GOD and the biblical teachings. I do not see this as a feminist thing though. Men want to marry other men because they are attracted to men. Women want marry other women because they are attraced to women. What does this have to do with equal rights and all that?
Feminism has absolutely nothing to do with gender equality, equal rights and the like. Feminism rather, is a term for female supremacy. To make the story short, feminism promotes females as the superior sex, and as a social movement, it attempts to create a female dominated society(as opposed to the "patriarchy" of men controlling society). Human female dominated societies fail. Perhaps the greatest building block and foundation of a successful society is determined by it's marriages and family units. Feminism has attempted to pull traditional marriage out by the root(because traditional marriage is opposed to female domination), and therefore, the (negative)change in marriage is accouted for.
I agree with we will face great difficulties. Chance of failure? I'm thinking this has to do with the frame of mind you go into it with. If you go in expecting to fail, then there ya go. If you go in willing to devote 100% to your spouse and her the same, seems easy to me. Again, can't talk from experience cause I haven't been married. And you not being married yourself, how can you tell from 3 posts on here whether or not I'm equipped for it?
Frame of mind is but a small portion of creating marital success. A positve attidtude is by no means a solution to problems. At best, it is a good setup to begining to traverse difficulty.
I can only perceive you according to what you reveal of yourself. Notice that I used the word "appear" quite often. I have not been making absolute judgments, only perceiving you as you presented yourself.