A friend in need

[humble soul]

A 45 year old friend of mine is really struggling. Married with 2 young kids. He is stuck in a low paid job with little chance of promotion. Hr has seen several younger colleagues promoted over him which runs salt in the wounds.
His wife wishes to stay home and focus on the kids which is understandable I guess. Kids aged 6 and 2. She hasn't expressed an interest to find work yet and in these covid times won't anyway.
He struggles with confidence and motivation. To be honest he has a trait I have noticed over the years which might be his downfall. He is rather passive. He often looks to me for solutions to his problems. Hr nods his head , and then quietly resumes his same nonchalance. It's like he wants things to change magically without much effort or change in himself.
Ok I am sounding hypercritical now. I find him quite likeable in other ways. He is decent. Honest. Non drinker. Non smoker. No addictions. We are all flawed. But I feel recently he might be headed for divorce as his wife says she is fed up with his lack of career future.
His parents are Muslim but his wife and he are far from the faith. Hr has a very dim view of Religion in general
He didn't like my talking about Jesus or Christianity. But the guy needs help and I am not sure I can help him to be honest.

 

[humble soul]

It reminds me that my own wife hasn't thrown me away. I haven't exactly had a stellar career and have depended on her at times financially. I think if we had kids, we might have divorced. Though I could be wrong.

 

[Susannah]

I need help too. One of my orphans has cholera and needs to go to the hospital. The fee is $70. Thank you. He is four years old and his name is Edward Lowell.

I will pray for your friend. If he needs counseling I am available as I do this for a living.

 

[for_his_glory]

It's really hard to help others when they do not want to put in the effort to help themselves. All you can do is be a supportive friend and pray for him and use a subtle witness.

 

[Tessa]

A 45 year old friend of mine is really struggling. Married with 2 young kids. He is stuck in a low paid job with little chance of promotion. Hr has seen several younger colleagues promoted over him which runs salt in the wounds.
His wife wishes to stay home and focus on the kids which is understandable I guess. Kids aged 6 and 2. She hasn't expressed an interest to find work yet and in these covid times won't anyway.
He struggles with confidence and motivation. To be honest he has a trait I have noticed over the years which might be his downfall. He is rather passive. He often looks to me for solutions to his problems. Hr nods his head , and then quietly resumes his same nonchalance. It's like he wants things to change magically without much effort or change in himself.
Ok I am sounding hypercritical now. I find him quite likeable in other ways. He is decent. Honest. Non drinker. Non smoker. No addictions. We are all flawed. But I feel recently he might be headed for divorce as his wife says she is fed up with his lack of career future.
His parents are Muslim but his wife and he are far from the faith. Hr has a very dim view of Religion in general
He didn't like my talking about Jesus or Christianity. But the guy needs help and I am not sure I can help him to be honest.

You are being a good friend. Although he nods bit things stay the same you give him things to think about. You plant seeds and sometimes they take a long whle to grow.
Will be praying for all he needs and for his family too.

 

[Prycejosh1987]

A 45 year old friend of mine is really struggling. Married with 2 young kids. He is stuck in a low paid job with little chance of promotion. Hr has seen several younger colleagues promoted over him which runs salt in the wounds.

I think if he has good work ethic and really brings value to the company then naturally they will offer him work promotions and pay rises. I was offered this in most of the companies i have worked for, i failed all my GCSES. Its something i hold onto and motivates me to help a company. The most important thing is that i get paid and i support my wages payer.