always single

[cly]

I'm sure that most, if not all, of the Christians here would say "Okay" if God called them to live their entire life as a single. Many of the non-Christians may not have a problem with that. What I'm wondering is, how does that thought make you feel?

As willing as I am to remain single all my life if God tells me to do so, the idea still scares me. I've always expected to marry; it's an expectation I was brought up with. In my family, marriage is a part of life: grow up, go to college, get a job, marry, have kids, and so on. (In that order, by the way.) I know that being scared is almost the same as showing doubt that God would help me to live as a bachelorette, but nevertheless, it does scare me.

What about the rest of you; what do you think about it or feel about it?

 

[Featherbop]

I think it is just a personal decision that most people make to try to create happiness in their life. Some people are happy being single. There is no right or wrong path, it simply depends on what you want.

 

[Scott]

I think God would have us all be single first and foremost. If we choose not to be, we are free to pursue marriage. I'm content with being single although its intermixed with times where I think about how it would be nice to be married. I haven't pursued any relationships aggressively since breaking up with the one I thought God had for me. Since then I've changed my thinking on finding a wife and God's role in that. I don't think He plays matchmaker, He justs gives us the ability to make good decisions if we seek His guidance. There are no guarantees. We either pursue marriage or we don't. In our lives, there are really no certainties on the paths we take. So I look at it like this.... tomorrow is another day, and just when you rule something out or think its a sure bet... things turn around and go in the other direction.

 

[KnarfKS]

The other thing is that God may give you the gift of celebacy as well. Marriage isn't just about sex, we would all agree, but without the "raging desire" for sex not, being married wouldn't be so that bad. It would still be lonely at times, but bearable. If God calls you to be single, then He probably has so much for you planned that you won't have too much time to worry about it.

 

[cly]

If God calls you to be single, then He probably has so much for you planned that you won't have too much time to worry about it.

Yes, I've thought of that. I know it's true. I think I'm just confused right now about where God's leading me. I don't want to do the wrong thing, but I'm having a difficult time figuring out what is the right thing. I just have to take it one day at a time and follow where He leads me to go, I suppose.

Thank you for ya'll's comments.

 

[Blazin Bones]

cly, Doubt is a natural part of faith. Without a degree of doubt, faith would be knowledge, because we'd be sure, not just believing. However, when that doubt drives us towards disbelief, that's when we start having some trouble.

As for the fear of being single, I know it well. I'm convinced it is not my calling, but I'm not God so I could be wrong. Tell God that it is there. Christ Himslef asked if the Cup he would drink of could be removed, but He still remembered that it wasn't His will that needed to be Done, but His Fathers.

If it is your call to be single, then God will help you to follow His calling, IN HIS TIME. Let Him unfold your future. It may hurt being a day by day thing, but sometimes that's how God works. 8-)

 

[cly]

Thank you. I think I needed to hear (read) that more than I thought. The comments truly have helped.

God bless!

 

[shaitiger]

If it were really God's will for a person to stay single for the rest of their lives, he would provide them with courage, faith, peace and joy to deal with that situation.

I'm in prayer now asking for wisdom and direction in all aspects of my life. Romantic relationships are definitely one aspect. No matter how bad I want to be with someone right now, God shows me that I'm not ready for one. He is still growing me as one of his children.