hischild71
Member
Hi all,
I had posted over a year ago in this forum here: http://www.christianforums.net/showthread.php?t=44688&highlight=
ALOT has transpired and I have found out alot more about his activities. I originally posted about if separation/divorce was acceptable in this situation. I also didn't know about his infidelities back then. Now I do. So here is the nutshell version of current events:
Basically my husband had been accused of 4 robberies. He has since been convicted on all 4 including a new one: he has stolen from my mom while we lived with her to the tune of $31,000. She is 73 and now in financial straits. Also, he ran off to Canada right before he was to be sentenced in NJ (he was already sentenced in PA). I had no idea where he was. He went to work one day and never came back. I also found out he had two affairs while we were married (and while I was standing by his side during all of this). So yes, alot has happened since I first posted. And throw in the past six years we've been together where he has been emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusive.
He has now been in a Canadian jail for 7 months. He said he has "found God" and that he has changed his ways. He wants to stay together and make things work.
We have talked alot during the 7 months after we got back in touch. I am VERY hurt about the cheating, probably more so than anything else. I don't feel I can EVER trust him again. I don't feel I can allow him back into my life because of what he's done to me and my family. I feel I need to protect us all. We have no kids together so there is no need for communication in that respect.
My decision: I had decided to officially separate not that long ago (physically we are separated by I mean marriage-wise). I had to step back and look at everything. I have made peace with the Lord regarding separation/divorce so I'm good with that.
My question is pretty simple: Should I give him another chance? Or am I setting myself up for another disaster?
I had posted over a year ago in this forum here: http://www.christianforums.net/showthread.php?t=44688&highlight=
ALOT has transpired and I have found out alot more about his activities. I originally posted about if separation/divorce was acceptable in this situation. I also didn't know about his infidelities back then. Now I do. So here is the nutshell version of current events:
Basically my husband had been accused of 4 robberies. He has since been convicted on all 4 including a new one: he has stolen from my mom while we lived with her to the tune of $31,000. She is 73 and now in financial straits. Also, he ran off to Canada right before he was to be sentenced in NJ (he was already sentenced in PA). I had no idea where he was. He went to work one day and never came back. I also found out he had two affairs while we were married (and while I was standing by his side during all of this). So yes, alot has happened since I first posted. And throw in the past six years we've been together where he has been emotionally, verbally and sometimes physically abusive.
He has now been in a Canadian jail for 7 months. He said he has "found God" and that he has changed his ways. He wants to stay together and make things work.
We have talked alot during the 7 months after we got back in touch. I am VERY hurt about the cheating, probably more so than anything else. I don't feel I can EVER trust him again. I don't feel I can allow him back into my life because of what he's done to me and my family. I feel I need to protect us all. We have no kids together so there is no need for communication in that respect.
My decision: I had decided to officially separate not that long ago (physically we are separated by I mean marriage-wise). I had to step back and look at everything. I have made peace with the Lord regarding separation/divorce so I'm good with that.
My question is pretty simple: Should I give him another chance? Or am I setting myself up for another disaster?
. At the moment in bree cheese but im starting to turn blue. lol.