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Being an introverted socializer

citrus

citrus

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So I usually can tell right away when I am to get along with someone. It seems like there are 2 type of people, cold vs warm. Anyone else feel this way? For example, feel like I need to be around warm people. It is like an actual need. I like to hug people. Do you ever feel if a person is a good hugger? It seems like there are cold huggers where you don't know if you hug or not and they feel cold, unnatural, like skin and bones. It is just weird. Same with handshakes. Anyone else relate. I love to be around warm people. Do some people want to be around cold people?
 
citrus said:
So I usually can tell right away when I am to get along with someone. It seems like there are 2 type of people, cold vs warm. Anyone else feel this way? For example, feel like I need to be around warm people. It is like an actual need. I like to hug people. Do you ever feel if a person is a good hugger? It seems like there are cold huggers where you don't know if you hug or not and they feel cold, unnatural, like skin and bones. It is just weird. Same with handshakes. Anyone else relate. I love to be around warm people. Do some people want to be around cold people?
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Well, I'm not a really a fan of sociopaths either. I can't I say hug anybody that often, but my sister "hugs" people. There's nothing there. It's just for show.
 
Oh that's sad. I love hugging warm people. I am curious if some people like hugging cold people. ? It just feels empty to me. Yes genuine hugs can help us live longer. It's bonding that people share. I just find it feels awkward hugging cold people.
 
citrus said:
So I usually can tell right away when I am to get along with someone. It seems like there are 2 type of people, cold vs warm. Anyone else feel this way? For example, feel like I need to be around warm people. It is like an actual need. I like to hug people. Do you ever feel if a person is a good hugger? It seems like there are cold huggers where you don't know if you hug or not and they feel cold, unnatural, like skin and bones. It is just weird. Same with handshakes. Anyone else relate. I love to be around warm people. Do some people want to be around cold people?
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Why do you prejudice all those that do not hug as being cold? Just because someone isn't ready to jump on the hugging bandwagon doesn't necessarily mean they are a cold personality.
 
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I just got a hug from someone yesterday and it felt so uncomfortable. It felt forced. I didn't mind it, it just felt out of place. Why is that being prejudice? Why do people always find away to attack people on forums on absolutely everything. Something as simple as this. I'm just asking cold people feel the same like on a date.
 
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I just got a hug from someone yesterday and it felt so uncomfortable. It felt forced. I didn't mind it, it just felt out of place. Why is that being prejudice? Why do people always find away to attack people on forums on absolutely everything. Something as simple as this. I'm just asking cold people feel the same like on a date.
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Wait a minute! You basically lumped an entire group of people together, which is prejudice, saying that anyone that doesn't hug is cold, but, because I used the word prejudice, you now accuse me of attacking.
 
I have never been one to offer hugs or to touch others physically. I don't know why. I don't even hug my own children. It's just not my style. Sure, I'll return a hug if one is offered. No problem, although it sometimes feels a little strange for me. To me, it feels like I'm intruding on their space. I even have a hard time recognizing when someone would like a hug.

Same is true with expressing love. I very rarely tell others I love them, including my wife. Again, it's just not my style.

Does this mean I don't care? Hardly.
 
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I have never been one to offer hugs or to touch others physically. I don't know why. I don't even hug my own children. It's just not my style. Sure, I'll return a hug if one is offered. No problem, although it sometimes feels a little strange for me. To me, it feels like I'm intruding on their space. I even have a hard time recognizing when someone would like a hug.

Same is true with expressing love. I very rarely tell others I love them, including my wife. Again, it's just not my style.

Does this mean I don't care? Hardly.
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Not even a handshake?
 
This post wasn't supposed to be about any of that. It more like chemistry between people and awkward moments. I guess I'll listen to my gut. Just wanted to know if one person is warm and the other cold do both people feel it. Kind of like dating. I'll just stick to my vibes.
 
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