Being one with our spouses - a delusion?

[Classik]

After reading another members stance on trust I was prompted to start this thread - a new one instead. Their stance is that they trusts no one but God, and can only trust you if you have proven you are trustworthy. Correct me if my comprehension is wrong.


Then how about our spouses? Can we trust them? If we cant trust them even when they have their faults I think this can cause a big problem in our relationship with them. A relationship can be torn apart if one party realises that the other is being suspicious of the other. I think this applies to marriages and also to mere courtship and even to other relationships.

I'm just thinking - the anxiety is high. I suspect my spouse? Then doom may knock on my door.

There are cases where somebody is totally innocent and we keep suspecting them for years...at the end we realise how an angel he or she has been...and it is too late to do anything again. The person is probably no longer there

 

[follower]

as soon as a man and a woman , even if she's a prostitute, have sex, they are one flesh, according to Scripture.

the challenge is to obey Yhvh and remain in His Will, for both the man and the woman. it is a tough challenge, especially today in the untied states where everyone is raised in a very ungodly society, told that they have to believe and/or accept many many things that are directly opposed to Yhvh and His Word and His Son Yeshua. to follow Yeshua, to be immersed in Him, requires complete and total heart and soul and mind and strength and spirit to be devoted to Him before all others and before all other things, including family, money, prestige, honor, respect, position, and everything honored or valued by men.
oh, there's many couples 'happy' together, or seemingly content, for decades... ... ... remember the admonition of , the instruction of Scripture -- like the Bereans, go back to Scripture and see that all is in line with Scripture... ... this is very rare to find.

a woman came to the untied states from africa not too long ago (within the last few years). (not just one person's assessment, but one example of what many see clearly).
she stayed with someone a few weeks or months and went to various churches. then she went back to africa noting, "I can't stay here(in the states) any longer - all you people are too selfish". (married and unmarried, young and old, men and women, though she hoped and looked for (and expected at first) believers as the Bible describes... ... ) and didn't find enough here (in the states) to remain here. to survive here. she went back to africa , to her home she came from, to regain/restore/ have again the fellowship of the saints in Christ Jesus that she couldn't find in the usa. this has been witnessed over and over in the last several decades... ... ...

 

[Gary]

After reading another members stance on trust I was prompted to start this thread - a new one instead. Their stance is that they trusts no one but God, and can only trust you if you have proven you are trustworthy. Correct me if my comprehension is wrong.


Then how about our spouses? Can we trust them? If we cant trust them even when they have their faults I think this can cause a big problem in our relationship with them. A relationship can be torn apart if one party realises that the other is being suspicious of the other. I think this applies to marriages and also to mere courtship and even to other relationships.

I'm just thinking - the anxiety is high. I suspect my spouse? Then doom may knock on my door.

There are cases where somebody is totally innocent and we keep suspecting them for years...at the end we realise how an angel he or she has been...and it is too late to do anything again. The person is probably no longer there

One vital ingredient in a healthy relationship is trust. The absence of trust usually spells doom for that relationship.
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[Willie T]

We must never forget the message of Job.

"That which I have feared, has come upon me." (It is so true, that, "As a man thinketh, so is he.)

 

[Classik]

We must never forget the message of Job.

"That which I have feared, has come upon me." (It is so true, that, "As a man thinketh, so is he.)

Your statement in parenthesis looks like an award-winning point...just that it requires elaboration

 

[Willie T]

Your statement in parenthesis looks like an award-winning point...just that it requires elaboration

To stay on topic.......... If your wife or girlfriend mistrusts you, and her radar goes off whenever you say anything to another girl or woman, don't you soon begin to pick up on that? And won't your own actions and thoughts be affected by that suspicion before very long?

Well, it won't be long before the "disloyalty" she feared, may begin to tear your relationship apart.

As far as the other part goes.... If you feel you are considered to be a certain way, then we have a tendency to wonder if we just MIGHT be.... which, if unchecked, can lead to actually seeing ourselves that way, and then the term, "self-fulfilling prophecy" comes into focus as a dawning of a possible reality.

We actually have a young member of this forum that is currently doing that to himself by allowing himself to be overly concerned with what the people in his environment are saying about him.

 

[reba]

Things happen in life that mold who we are.... We all learn at different paces... Experiences teach us.... Some of us are emotional solid , other educationally sound.. some are great at building things some only find their thumb with a hammer... All life that goes on around us builds us into who we are... Learning to trust after being kicked in the heart a few times seems to me to be the most difficult... it is much easier to learn not to hit ones thumb with a hammer.

We dont know the other persons that come cross our paths we dont know their hurts their joys. We dont see what makes them tick... they dont see what makes us tick...

there are things that have happened in my life that when i see the sorta thing coming again i make my self and others safe not because i dont trust the Lord but because He gave me a brain...

 

[Willie T]

And.................... if we can learn NOT to concentrate so much on ourselves, our reactions, our feelings, and basically US...... we can alter so much influence we have been allowing others to have on us.
I had a teacher who once wrote on the board... after she found I was moping about something... "To be happy, just forget about YOU."

We wouldn't care so much what others think about us if we only knew how seldom they do.