believer and nonbeliever

[brown.suqar]

hi. i am new to this site and also to being a christian. i have a question about dating. i have dated a guy for 3 years and he is a non believer. i became saved and i talked to him about god but now we kind of went out seperate ways i should say. we still love each other but it just feels a bit different. i pray for him to be saved and to find jesus. but i dont no if i should just give up on it all or keep praying for him. if he was saved he would be an incredible bf and believer in god but i dont no if i can see it happening. if i have to let him go it will be very hard for me. if i hold on to my feelings i might set myself up. i just don't know i wish i knew.

 

[Nick]

Hello and welcome to the site! . I have moved your topic to to the Singles, Courtship and Dating section as it is more suited here than at the College forum.

Anyway....


No matter what happens, I would not give up praying for him. The Bible does say that we are not to be yoked with unbeleivers. This doesn't mean that we should not be friends with non-Christians, it is more referring to a dating/marraige relationship. I know it is hard but to be honest I would advise against a close bf/gf relationship with this unbeliever. I'm sure he's a nice guy, but it will comprimise your faith if you are in a relationship with him. Speaking from what I've observed and from others have said on this forum, it is a matter of when, not if.

But definately pray about this matter, and commit it to God.

 

[Cheyenne K]

I have to agree with Nick.

The Bible does warn us not to be unequally yoked with non-believers in terms of romantic relationships and with good reason. At some point, there may very well be fighting and arguing. But, more importantly, influences may come in to play and one of you could be pulled in the other's direction. Would you want to take the chance of straying away from God for a relationship?
And while I don't advise a missionary-type relationship, praying for him is definitely a good thing. I hope the Lord guides both you and your boyfriend in this.