I have been reading the book The Resolution which is based off the Christian movie Courageous. In the book it talks about raising your children to know the Lord and and bring them up in a Christian home that serves the Lord.
My problem is that my children live 1200 miles away from me. They are from a non-marriage relationship where their mom found someone else and ended our over 10 year relationship. She didn't want to be married and still doesn't. She has this other man living with her and the kids. She doesn't want me to mention God in any way to them so I have not said anything.
I also have not seen my kids in over 3 1/2 years. Never have the money to be able to travel to see them because I am so far away. When I was working with Americorps I received just enough as a living stipend that there wasn't much at the end of the month. I am without a job still after Americorps, but am working with vocational rehabilitation and am hopeful that I will have one in the next couple of months. So I do the best I can with video chatting.
I am now married and we do not have any kids at this time. Don't think we will have any because my wife is sterile from taking the chemotherapy drug Novantrone for multiple sclerosis. My wife and I are both Christians.
I know that the house that they are living in isn't a Christian home and the man that is there isn't their father.
One time when I was video chatting with them, they had done something minor and he starts cursing up and down a wall and at them. He even went as far as saying that he doesn't give a &*^% who they are talking to on the computer.
So there was no obvious regard for the fact that they were talking to their dad.
I do pay child support, but the magistrate was very lenient on me as well as my kid's mom. I only pay fifty dollars a month for my five children. I also gave extra when I was able to do so. So I do not want to anger her in anyway and have her take me back to court and have her ask for more in child support when I can't afford to pay it at this time. While I am hopeful I will have a job in the next couple of months, it's not a definite that I will.
So how am I supposed to bring my children up in the Lord with the circumstances that I am facing?
edit: I should mention that I wasn't a Christian when I was with their mom.
My problem is that my children live 1200 miles away from me. They are from a non-marriage relationship where their mom found someone else and ended our over 10 year relationship. She didn't want to be married and still doesn't. She has this other man living with her and the kids. She doesn't want me to mention God in any way to them so I have not said anything.
I also have not seen my kids in over 3 1/2 years. Never have the money to be able to travel to see them because I am so far away. When I was working with Americorps I received just enough as a living stipend that there wasn't much at the end of the month. I am without a job still after Americorps, but am working with vocational rehabilitation and am hopeful that I will have one in the next couple of months. So I do the best I can with video chatting.
I am now married and we do not have any kids at this time. Don't think we will have any because my wife is sterile from taking the chemotherapy drug Novantrone for multiple sclerosis. My wife and I are both Christians.
I know that the house that they are living in isn't a Christian home and the man that is there isn't their father.
One time when I was video chatting with them, they had done something minor and he starts cursing up and down a wall and at them. He even went as far as saying that he doesn't give a &*^% who they are talking to on the computer.
So there was no obvious regard for the fact that they were talking to their dad.
I do pay child support, but the magistrate was very lenient on me as well as my kid's mom. I only pay fifty dollars a month for my five children. I also gave extra when I was able to do so. So I do not want to anger her in anyway and have her take me back to court and have her ask for more in child support when I can't afford to pay it at this time. While I am hopeful I will have a job in the next couple of months, it's not a definite that I will.
So how am I supposed to bring my children up in the Lord with the circumstances that I am facing?
edit: I should mention that I wasn't a Christian when I was with their mom.
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