Can my partner marry me if I was divorced?

[erika4320]

Hi all,

Please help me in this crucial question.

I have been married to someone, I married him at a young age in an office, otherwise he had to leave my country (he was a Muslim, I am Christian). Unfortunately I had to end the relationship because he strangled me one time (and he had other flaws as well I could not put up with). I keep fighting for divorce for a long time now, it is being processed now finally.

I met a person who comes from a Pentecostal church. He says that he would commit a sin if he married me even if I was divorced. At the moment we are in a relationship for 3 years, but we are not intimate with each other (we used to be). I respect his boundaries but he used to judge me a lot because I left my previous partner, but I was scared for my life and I could not stay in that marriage.

Is he right that he can not marry me after my divorce is finalised?

 

[Who Me]

but we are not intimate with each other (we used to be).

Is he right that he can not marry me after my divorce is finalised?

I would challenge his blatant hypocrisy in having sex with you but won't marry you.

Some church do have strict rules about re marriage.
Talk to both the pastor of his church and the pastor of your church for their views on your situation and marriage.

 

[for_his_glory]

Hi erika4320 and welcome to CF

I had the same question before I married my husband 26years ago. The first two marriages were abusive mentally and physically as my last husband tries to kill me a few times and I knew I had to get out of that and God did make a way where there was no way. Before getting married a third time I studied the scriptures to know if it was right in the eyes of God and He gave me this below.

1 Corinthians 7:10, Jesus commands the woman or the man not to leave her husband and if she or he does they should remain unmarried, but in Malachi 2:10-16 the treachery that man or a woman commits against each other which leads one or the other to have an affair outside of the marriage or abuses one or the other whether it be physical or emotional gives place to what was said by Moses in Deuteronomy 24:1-4 that if a woman or a man is no longer pleasing to the other then the husband or wife should give his wife or husband a written bill of divorcement and send them out of the house and this gives the woman or the man the right to marry again, but they can never go back to the former spouse if that marriage does not work out or her husband or wife dies for now he or she is defiled to be with their first husband or wife and this is an abomination to God.

For a good marriage to work one should study 2 Corinthians 6:14 be ye not unequally yoked together with non-believers for what fellowship hath righteous with unrighteous, and what communion has light with darkness. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ then you need to choose a mate that also believes in the faith of Christ. In some marriages people do not enter into a relationship with Christ being the center of it, but maybe one of them come to know the Lord and the other one refuses to have that personal relationship with Christ then we go back to what 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 says. If the unbelieving partner leaves the believing partner then this frees the believing partner from the bondage of the vows of marriage and they are free to marry again.

Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered. Always resolve your problems with the Holy Ghost guidance through the word and you will always have a good marriage. Always be opened and honest with each other for this builds trust in the relationship, but if that trust is broken there is no relationship. Love each other unconditionally as Christ loves us and forgives us our faults. As long as we live in this flesh we will sin at times, but when you acknowledge those sins and ask for forgiveness God will always forgive us. Always be ready to forgive each other seventy times seven, Matthew 22:21,22, and not only forgive, but forget the sin as God remembers our sins no more when we repent of them. The outside appearance will always change and beauty may fade, but it is the heart of the person we are to love and the heart will never change as long as the love of Christ dwells within it.

God bless you sis ​

 

[tdidymas]

Hi all,

Please help me in this crucial question.

I have been married to someone, I married him at a young age in an office, otherwise he had to leave my country (he was a Muslim, I am Christian). Unfortunately I had to end the relationship because he strangled me one time (and he had other flaws as well I could not put up with). I keep fighting for divorce for a long time now, it is being processed now finally.

I met a person who comes from a Pentecostal church. He says that he would commit a sin if he married me even if I was divorced. At the moment we are in a relationship for 3 years, but we are not intimate with each other (we used to be). I respect his boundaries but he used to judge me a lot because I left my previous partner, but I was scared for my life and I could not stay in that marriage.

Is he right that he can not marry me after my divorce is finalised?

I recommend running away from someone who is a hypocrite. Well, maybe he repented, and perhaps only after he saw that you were getting emotionally attached? If his religion says he can't marry you (even after sleeping with you), and he is adamant about it, it's time to end it and get on with your life. Somewhere if there is no compromise and full agreement on the issues of life, the relationship will be headed for major hurts. And 3 years is long enough for a man to leave you in limbo. Somewhere you have to draw a line, but volunteer it for yourself. Beware of ultimatums, as they tend to push people to do things they later regret. The prophet Amos wrote, "how can two walk together unless they agree?"

If his pastor says he can't marry you, and he agrees with that and doesn't leave his church, then it's time to end it, through, finished, done. I don't recommend becoming a Pentecostal, especially in your current situation. I was Pentecostal for 25 years and finally left because I couldn't stand the legalism any more.

 

[Prycejosh1987]

Is he right that he can not marry me after my divorce is finalised?

Technically he is right. But it depends on why you divorced. Jesus said we cannot marry someone who is divorced except on intimacy grounds. Basically once a cheater always a cheater.