Christian Girl I Like (Sorry I'm always making these girl threads)

[Navigator]

Okay. Not sure if my situation was updated since I last talked to you guys and girls, but my old girlfriend and I broke up FOR GOOD (and I want it that way) about 2 months ago. Since then I've been content in my singleness and made the decision to remain single unless a good, Christian girl came into my life. Just a week or so ago, I was babysitting with a girl from the youth group that I also attend at my college. We talked quite a bit and from there, I invited her to a cookout my mission group through church was having, she invited me to a game night she hosted, and we've had many long Facebook chats (one went until 530 a.m.!!) So the truth of the matter is...I feel like I really like this girl. She is so in love with Jesus, and seems to be someone who will also hold me accountable for my love of Jesus.

All this is fantastic, but I'm a little cautious. Because I just broke up...I don't want this new girl to be someone who my heart is telling me I like because she fits the Christian girl mold and likes me back. I want to make sure I want to date her and it's not me just looking for someone else after a breakup. This is wearing really hard on my heart because I don't know if I'm wasting God setting all of this up by waiting, but I also don't want to make the decision to go for it and crash and burn...and bring her down with me. Any advice would be appreciated.

 

[farouk]

Navigator:

No need to be in a hurry!

But if you start praying together and habitually reading and discussing the Scriptures together, this might be different.

And another thing: if she is living, what is her mom like? (i.e., she will probably be like the way her mom is now, in 25-30 years' time....assuming the Rapture I believe in doesn't happen before then...)

Blessings.

 

[Navigator]

Navigator:

No need to be in a hurry!

But if you start praying together and habitually reading and discussing the Scriptures together, this might be different.

And another thing: if she is living, what is her mom like? (i.e., she will probably be like the way her mom is now, in 25-30 years' time....assuming the Rapture I believe in doesn't happen before then...)

Blessings.

I don't know her parents. We just met a little while ago and her parents live hours away. She is very close to her grandma though, and says that her and her grandma are VERY similar. Funny note...she said that I remind her of her grandpa, who she is also very close to. She isn't all that close to her parents from what I've gathered.

 

[farouk]

I don't know her parents. We just met a little while ago and her parents live hours away. She is very close to her grandma though, and says that her and her grandma are VERY similar. Funny note...she said that I remind her of her grandpa, who she is also very close to. She isn't all that close to her parents from what I've gathered.

Navigator:

Well, remember it's character and spirituality that you are really looking for. Whether she likes to walk in flip flops or stilettos is immaterial! And, bear in mind whether you think you could learn to live with her taste in (or absence of) jewelry and piercings etc. says more about you than about her!

Blessings!

 

[Dirt]

32 here, haven't had a real relationship (a few short mistakes), in 8 years for the exact same reason...Now just waiting patiently for the right girl, although I believe I found her...she cut things off last year as soon as they were getting started because she wants to wait for God's will in her life. Been praying persistently every single day for her since then..but will continue to wait for God's will in my life as well...

 

[farouk]

32 here, haven't had a real relationship (a few short mistakes), in 8 years for the exact same reason...Now just waiting patiently for the right girl, although I believe I found her...she cut things off last year as soon as they were getting started because she wants to wait for God's will in her life. Been praying persistently every single day for her since then..but will continue to wait for God's will in my life as well...

Dirt:

Well, keep praying but no need to be in a hurry. "Marry in haste; repent at leisure".

 

[DarkHorseRising]

T A K E

I T

S L O W

Tattoo these words backwards on your forehead so you can read them in the mirror every morning :P

If it's meant to be, you will not screw it up by taking the time to get to know her and moving at a pace you're both comfortable with. Two months of singleness isn't necessarily a long time, and you say you've only been chatting a week. There is no rush, it isn't a race.

 

[God's_gift]

Okay. Not sure if my situation was updated since I last talked to you guys and girls, but my old girlfriend and I broke up FOR GOOD (and I want it that way) about 2 months ago. Since then I've been content in my singleness and made the decision to remain single unless a good, Christian girl came into my life. Just a week or so ago, I was babysitting with a girl from the youth group that I also attend at my college. We talked quite a bit and from there, I invited her to a cookout my mission group through church was having, she invited me to a game night she hosted, and we've had many long Facebook chats (one went until 530 a.m.!!) So the truth of the matter is...I feel like I really like this girl. She is so in love with Jesus, and seems to be someone who will also hold me accountable for my love of Jesus.

All this is fantastic, but I'm a little cautious. Because I just broke up...I don't want this new girl to be someone who my heart is telling me I like because she fits the Christian girl mold and likes me back. I want to make sure I want to date her and it's not me just looking for someone else after a breakup. This is wearing really hard on my heart because I don't know if I'm wasting God setting all of this up by waiting, but I also don't want to make the decision to go for it and crash and burn...and bring her down with me. Any advice would be appreciated.

Bro, the question is are you ready for a new relationship?
IMHO 2 months from break up is still too fresh. Take your time , just because you find another person who likes you and whom you like doesn't necessarily means you are in love.