[__ Prayer __] Crushed by a crush

[Perrinlan]

There is this girl that I really like. I've never felt this way about a girl before. I have no idea what to do. She goes to high school with my best friend, that's how I got to know her. One day during the first week in December we were texting and she told me she liked my best friend. But my best friend liked another girl and they were almost dating. I felt terrible. I wasn't sure what to say but I ended up telling her that I liked her. I know she doesn't like me so i'm trying to get over her but I can't. I know my best friend and her hangout and that's killing me. I keep praying that I could stop thinking about her but I can't. Shes on my mind all day. I don't know what to do.

 

[AirDancer]

Best thing to do: Immerse yourself in the reading & studying of Scripture, and give the crush & the pain completely to our Lord!

You may still like her, but she's already indicated that she's interested in your best friend and not you. So, in order to get over that crush, you need to be busy. Whether you're at university or working full time, there's still time to pray, and still time to study Scripture. Allow our Lord to heal you from the crush.

I would imagine most of us here at CFnet have experienced a crush on someone who didn't crush back. It's not a fun experience, but we've lived, recovered and moved on with our lives. And many have gone on to marry absolutely wonderful people!

 

[Kathi]

I do not think I would have told her right off that you like her.It might have scared her off.You need to give this situation to God.Pray and ask Him to guide and direct you in this.I know this must hurt.God has a wonderful plan for you but maybe this girl is not who God wants for you.Sometimes we want to have control over our lives and pick and choose who we want.We can get in a lot of trouble that way.Does your friend know that you like this girl?
In time you will stop thinking about her.If someone else comes along you definitely will get over her.
Welcome to CF.It is nice to have you with us.Please keep us informed how you are doing with this situation.

 

[jack K]

Hi there, I know it can't be easy what you going through but time heals all wounds.
Just remember that you deserve somebody who truly cares about you. Just hang in there, things will get better.

 

[Perrinlan]

Kathi, I don't think my friend knows I like her. He knows we used to text a lot and I would ask about her sometimes but I don't know. Today has been really hard. I keep thinking about how we used to text and snapchat all day long. But I have no idea why she doesn't talk to me anymore. After I told her I liked her we worked it out and we were still friends but one day she just stopped. And I can't stop thinking about how my best friend and her are going to youth group together tomorrow. Thinking about the two of them together gets me really upset.

 

[Kathi]

Kathi, I don't think my friend knows I like her. He knows we used to text a lot and I would ask about her sometimes but I don't know. Today has been really hard. I keep thinking about how we used to text and snapchat all day long. But I have no idea why she doesn't talk to me anymore. After I told her I liked her we worked it out and we were still friends but one day she just stopped. And I can't stop thinking about how my best friend and her are going to youth group together tomorrow. Thinking about the two of them together gets me really upset.

That is so frustrating when you do not know what is wrong.Have you thought of asking her what is wrong?What have you got to lose?

 

[Perrinlan]

I don't have too many friends so when she stopped texting me like she used to, it was like a big part of my life being taken out. We actually texted tonight which was awesome. But I didn't ask her if anything was wrong. I feel like if I did she would take it bad and I would lose her as a friend.

 

[Kathi]

I don't have too many friends so when she stopped texting me like she used to, it was like a big part of my life being taken out. We actually texted tonight which was awesome. But I didn't ask her if anything was wrong. I feel like if I did she would take it bad and I would lose her as a friend.

Hey,there you go.You texted with her Just play it cool.She does know that you like her.

 

[Perrinlan]

I feel like I have a curse... I like a girl, have a crush on her for months, find out she doesn't like me or has a boyfriend, then try and move on and finally meet a new girl, and then it all repeats. With the girl that I talked about in this thread I was able to stop having a crush on her. This past weekend I volunteered at a camp and I became friends with an awesome girl. I feel like we became pretty close over the weekend. At the end of camp I asked for her phone number and she gave it to me. I thought I could possibly have a chance with her. Today I texted her about maybe volunteering again this weekend because they were low on volunteers this week. When she answered she said that she wished she could but it was short notice for her boss and her boyfriend was visiting her this weekend. I had a thought she had a boyfriend and I prayed to God that what ever happens I would praise Him. I'm just glad I found out early on. I just don't know what to do. The one thing I want most in this world is a girlfriend and I've never had one. I know God has a plan for me but I feel really sad.

 

[jack K]

Hi Perrinlan
I know the feeling and what you going through, I suppose everybody is looking for that special someone to make their life more complete.
I have learnt that you can't go out with the intention of looking for a girlfriend, something's just need to happen by itself. I'm not saying that you don't have to do anything and wait for it to fall on your lap but just try focusing on yourself.
You seem like a guy who will be really faithful and give your best in a relationship. It's for the right girl to come along and appreciate the qualities you have. If not, then they the wrong girl and somebody who doesn't deserve you.
A few years back I lost somebody really close to me, she was more than my girlfriend but my best friend. I still tried my best to win her back but it was to late, I would of done anything and will probably still. Nobody has really ever taken her place and she is still special to me.
But what gives me comfort now is knowing that I tried my best and would of done anything. There is only so much you can do at the end of the day, the rest you need to leave up to God. I know it's difficult.
We can only pray and live in hope of what tomorrow can bring and never let continuous blows get to us. Keep your head up.