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Dating and finding that one that's worth it all!

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GundamZero

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Hey guys (meaning guys and girls), I just wanted to take this opportunity try to give you some advice.

Now you may find it odd for a guy like gundamzero, a dude who has never dated and has no plans of it in the near future, to comment on such a topic, but hear me out.

In a typical situation, you find yourself having a crush, if you will, on someone you know, but don't really know too personally. Well, what is the point of a dating relationship?

Really, the whole point, like it or not, is to find your husband or wife. Therefore, doesn't it seem reasonable that this person, whom God has already chosen to be with you, and you with them, could be simply a friend whom you already confide in?

Seriously, don't just go looking. Wait and be patient. You love your friends right? Well one of those friends is going to have the distinct ability to be a more faithful and caring friend than any other, and you the same.

I know the premium that the world puts on purely physical relationships that have know meaning, but think about it. Suppose you take that route. In fifty years, that great guy or gal is going to be old in a society that often leaves its elderly in the dust. When that time comes, it won't matter how smart, pretty, handsome, etc. they are. All that matters is that you love each other.

We all see, shamefully most present among "Christians", the sharp dagger of divorce ripping through couples these days. Do you really want to know why they fell apart. It's because they really never loved each other inthe first place. They just decided they liked each others facade, which they put up in order to convince the other to stay with them.

So do you see why this whole dating thing is whack? It's because we're so often putting up advertisements that don't show who we are, and thus we don't love each other truly.

This is why I say, be patient, and stop looking so narrow-mindedly. You don't need to put on a show for your friend, and he/she doesn't need one for you. Your companion should be able to be your friend regardless of the physical, and you should all love each other unconditionally. Through our love of each other, not only do we honor God, but we also already have a common bond on which God can build the perfect marriage on.

So when your worried about who likes you and who to date, just be patient. God has the special someone all picked out just for you and He's just waiting to surprise you with them. Wait, be patient. You will find each other before you know it.
 
Indeed!! I totally agree w/ you!

I know that God has a special young man waiting for me. And until I know who he is, all I can do is pray for Him. I just cant wait to see who God has planned for me!!! Sometimes I just wish that God would tell me right now, lol.

My uncle wrote a song that I just love to sing.

"Oh Father God in heaven. I stand before your throne. Lifting up my future husband and our future home. May your angels stand guard 'round him Lord, and keep him safe I pray. May his life know happiness each and everyday. Now I don;t know who he is or when we're going to meet. But I believe you've choosen him especially for me. And I don't want to let the darkness cause us to trip and fall in sin. Help me stay as pure, as I like him to be. And that's the reason why. I'm on my knees again. And help me to remember to pray for him each day. From this moment on oh Lord, till my dying day. And the next time we're both on our knees in sweet communion Lord, with You. Would you tell him for me please, I'm praying for you." copright 2003 by Johnson music


I can't wait till the day that God reveals to me who he is! I can't wait to see the unique person that God has made especially for me!
 
Hey I totally agree with you guys. Ive been praying that God would reveal the girl to me that he wants me to be with. But so far he hasent i guess all i can do is keep praying well i have to go ttyl and keep praying everything happens in Gods time.
bye
 
Yea I think that dating is totally acceptable if you are very very careful. If the other person is worth it (in my opinon) than if you afta wait a while before you get to hold hands/ kiss said person then hey you guys are both in it for the long hall (or they just wanna have somone so they can say they have a "significant other"). O and set your limits and make sure the other party knows about them ( in fact set 'em together)
 
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