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Dating athiests?

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sydbarrettangel

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So, what's everyone's take on dating atheists? What about Agnostics? Other religions?
 
2 Cor 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
 
2 Corinthians 6:14 (NASB)
14Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

As you might know, the people who spend the most time with tend to have an influence on you and therefore it would be unwise to have a romantic relationship with one who might lead you astray.

I personally want to have a relationship with a woman who challenges me to live more for Christâ€â€not one who leads me to sin and away from God.
 
Indeed. Didn't Jesus say to shun the unbelievers, avoid the lepers, and not, under any circumstances, associate with moneylenders?
 
Thanatos said:
Indeed. Didn't Jesus say to shun the unbelievers, avoid the lepers, and not, under any circumstances, associate with moneylenders?
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yes, in an effort to make christianity as esoteric and cloistered as possible.
 
I have no qualms about associating with atheists or people of other faiths. But having romantic relationships is practically not a good idea. If you take your faith seriously, than you have to look at the future repercussions. Children is one of the most obvious problems, and there are many others.
 
Muad'Dib said:
I have no qualms about associating with atheists or people of other faiths. But having romantic relationships is practically not a good idea. If you take your faith seriously, than you have to look at the future repercussions. Children is one of the most obvious problems, and there are many others.
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"Dating" is not "marriage." Anyone who dates thinking about children needs to take a serious chill pill.
 
I see no other purpose for dating than looking for someone to love and marry.
 
Muad'Dib said:
I see no other purpose for dating than looking for someone to love and marry.
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Having fun? Enjoyment of life?

Or did Jesus preach against that, too?
 
dating is a good way to "experiment" and see how relationships work. Your first date usually is not the one you marry... IT lets you see what love and such is about before you commit to the wrong person.
 
Thanatos

Having fun? Enjoyment of life?

Or did Jesus preach against that, too?
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Love and marriage sound like enjoyment of life to me. If you disagree, that's your business. I can only speak from my own point of view, and I do not understand why you disapprove of it so strongly.
 
I don't think fundamentalists can date atheists or agnostics. Liberal Christians seem to be able to handle a relationship where the people differ on religion. That is just my observations.

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I do not think it is wise for a Christian to date an atheist, if there is even the remotest interest in either party to find a life partner. The differences run just too deep and the long term problems seem too challenging. Of course, by the same token, it probably does not make sense for a conservative fundamentalist type of Christian to marry a liberal type of Christian, especially if each holds their views with great passion.
 
My friend is an atheist and she's dating a very religious Baptist... If they ever get married, those are going to be some very interesting children ^_^
 
I have met many "interfaith" relations through my short life span (idunno, maybe its popular with my family friends)

anyways, most of them can set aside their religous prejudices to be with the one they love. I mean sure, they might disagree (most likely do) on many topics, but it shouldn't really matter should it?

I have dated mainly agnostics. or very liberal christians. I could date a christian and be fine with it, as long as they didnt try to convert me or anything :-P
 
I used to think that it would not be an issue, but my daughter married an atheist. They had children and it did make a difference , not in a good way. My daughter always took the kids to church and this was ok for awhile , but then her husband got to the point he would voice his opinions on christianty, the Bible ect. Now 9 years later he and my daughter are getting a divorce, he decided that the marriage was not working out. Alot of it had to do with her belifes and his not wanting the kids involved in church which started some heated exchanges. So I would have to say that the two do not go together and never will. I think my daugter thought when they were dating she could win him over to the Lord by how she lived. The best thing I feel is to date those who already have the Lord in thier lives and avoid much pain and sorrow later down
the line. Thats just my opinon.


Blessed are the peace makers for they shall be called the children of God.
 
peace4all said:
anyways, most of them can set aside their religous prejudices to be with the one they love. I mean sure, they might disagree (most likely do) on many topics, but it shouldn't really matter should it?
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I fail to see how preferring to date someone of your own religion is a religious "prejudice." I don't think you understand the nature of having faith. It is impossible to "put aside" one's religious beliefs for any reason. God comes before anything else in one's life.
 
Im not saying preferences are bad, but im saying things liek "i refuse to thin k about dating him/her, because he/she is not my religion, or sect" i think thats wrong because normally that would be formed upon an assumption that your particular belief is the onyl correct one. I mean, i know people that wont marry someoen unless they go to the exxact same church etc.. thats a lil weird.

Sure, its always good to be like

"im looking for a non smoking, tall christian female" but.. it shoudlnt be "you must be born again or you cant be with me"
 
Yes, I could understand that. Refusing to date people across denominations seems extreme. But there is a sensible practicality for not dating people of other faiths or no faith at all.
 
Muad'Dib said:
Yes, I could understand that. Refusing to date people across denominations seems extreme. But there is a sensible practicality for not dating people of other faiths or no faith at all.
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i concede the point to you. i might perhaps give the notion a chance (dating someone who is theologically essentially incompatible with me), but it wouldn't last. it's really the only smart thing to do. based on the fact that i would be a hypocrite to condemn someone for the practice, you have made your point and i agree with you.
 
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