Blazin Bones
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Which do you think is the best way for a Christian to appraoch a relationship?
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Dating, Courtship, or none of the above?
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IChThUS
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Can you define what you mean by relationship.
I have a relationship with the roadsweeper I pass every Wednesday on my way to work.
I have a relationship with my next door neighbour, his wife and children
I have a relationship with the team of drivers on my bus route
I have a relationship with the girls in the cafe I go to every Tuesday
I don't at the moment have a relationship with any of them that I would wish to develop further.
If you mean how would I approach a relationship with the georgeous young lady that brings me out in a sweat everytime :crazyeyes: I see her then that is another matter, I would have to ask myself
Is she a Christian and can she share my faith?
I have a relationship with the roadsweeper I pass every Wednesday on my way to work.
I have a relationship with my next door neighbour, his wife and children
I have a relationship with the team of drivers on my bus route
I have a relationship with the girls in the cafe I go to every Tuesday
I don't at the moment have a relationship with any of them that I would wish to develop further.
If you mean how would I approach a relationship with the georgeous young lady that brings me out in a sweat everytime :crazyeyes: I see her then that is another matter, I would have to ask myself
Is she a Christian and can she share my faith?
- YES - "How about a coffee after a film on Saturday night?" (or whatever)[/*:m:b5ec2]
- NO - Turn and walk, and pray for her soul[/*:m:b5ec2]
Blazin Bones
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Well, seeing as this is a section of the board dedicated to singles, courtship and dating, the relationship in question would be a Romantic relationship. As for defining a romantic relationship, it could be anything from a one time date with a girl to a bowling alley or movie theater, to a serious relationship of many dates or times of fellowship that ultimately leads to marriage.
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OnFireForChrist
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I think courtship is the best way to approach it. Why?
1. the intention is from the outset trying to see if the other person is a suitable spouse
2. it is safer because it involves NOT GOING OUT ALONE--it reduces temptations (aka you have chaperones)
3. more respect
The next best thing is group dating with other people who understand that purity is important in relationship. I also stress that this should continue through being engaged until you finally get married. The other is not your spouse until you both say 'I do'. :wink:
1. the intention is from the outset trying to see if the other person is a suitable spouse
2. it is safer because it involves NOT GOING OUT ALONE--it reduces temptations (aka you have chaperones)
3. more respect
The next best thing is group dating with other people who understand that purity is important in relationship. I also stress that this should continue through being engaged until you finally get married. The other is not your spouse until you both say 'I do'. :wink:
Blazin Bones
Member
So what about two adults? Courtship in this sense seems geared towards younger people who are not as willing to keep themselves and their hearts in check.
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MatthewFreeman
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I find these labels to be very artificial. In the end, whether you call spending time together dating, courting, peacocking or global-thermal-nuclear-war, it all ends up being the same thing.
I think we as Christians get way too wrapped up in doing everything the RIGHT way. I say just relax, engage in as much community as possible (get to know her entire family well--that will tell you sooo much about him/her) and just be in community together, church, friends, work, around kids, etc.
After 6,000 years we still haven't figured out the magic formula...and yet, we're all still here, still courting, still marrying and still increase the global population.
So the right method is the Relax method.
I think we as Christians get way too wrapped up in doing everything the RIGHT way. I say just relax, engage in as much community as possible (get to know her entire family well--that will tell you sooo much about him/her) and just be in community together, church, friends, work, around kids, etc.
After 6,000 years we still haven't figured out the magic formula...and yet, we're all still here, still courting, still marrying and still increase the global population.
So the right method is the Relax method.
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mike111
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I agree with mathewfreeman, take it easy, ones step at a time, relax. If your good for each other it will find a way to work at first, then it takes work from you.