Hi Catholic Crusader,
I listened to the link. The men I heard were not debating so much as clarifying their positions...especially the Catholic position, so that a true understanding of what they believe is conveyed to evangelicals. I applaud the effort. I know that people choose to perceive the beliefs of others the way they want, rather than what those people are actually saying. We distort just like satan does if we think it will help us win. Sometimes we do it without even knowing that we are because we are blindly clinging to something other than Jesus. sigh. I suppose all people do this no matter what the disagreement is. I have been guilty of it very often in motive and action, and I notice I do it with my husband when I really think I am right about something, not even considering that God will lead us through him, I just choose to ingnore that truth during those times.

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When my children argue it frustrates me as a mother to watch them NOT listen to one another, or feel compassion toward one another. They want to think badly of each other because they are angry and self-centered. I think, "This is your brother, you know this guy is upstanding and cares about you...where is your mind right now?" Sometimes only correction from me will restore harmony and get them to stop and think...and reflect on their own motives and actions in the situation.
Truth can only be uncovered in a discussion if we are willing to truly listen and understand one another's view. When I tell my children to do something, I always make them repeat the instructions back to me so that they are protected from misunderstanding me, and I am able to hold them accountable for what they actually know. I don' think as a child, and they don't think as a mother. It brings peace and sincere repentance when things are clear, or at least when all involved desire for them to be clear.
I guess we have to ask ourselves, "Do I want to win some vain dispute? Or, do I want to solve the problem of error in my brother, and possibly have my own revealed?" Wow, we should praise God when our own error is revealed! I'm afraid, I can not hear the Truth and have mine revealed most of the time. Anyway, we may still leave off the discussion in disagreement, being convinced truly in our own minds, but Jesus' love has abounded from one to another, we been sharpened...even if it's just a more firm understanding of our own position, and we have planted seeds of love and Truth in someone else who may be in serious error. And, most importantly the light of God has shown through our brotherly love...which John says is evidence of Him in us. I am not sure this is debate, though, maybe it's more of a family gathering together for a discussion about their disagreements?
Anyway, I would like to add that I realize there are times when rebuke is needed. If we are truly submitting to one another in Jesus, we can hear and receive rebuke (if we desire to be led by truth). And, if we must give rebuke, it will be stern and honest because we hate sin as God does, but it will also be humble and tender because we love our brothers and sisters in Christ. The Lord bless all of you today.
P.S. Drew mentioned the tone of this board last year, and I would like to apologize for my contribution to those problems during that time.