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Do girls like guys to chase after them?

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Dave Slayer

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Do girls like guys to chase after them? Some girls I know say yes and some say no. Some have said they don't want the guy to give up on her just because she asked the guy to leave her alone. And when some girls ask you to leave them alone, they mean it. How do we know if a girl means it or not when she says "leave me alone"? Some girls even want the guy to pursue her even after she told the guy he had no chance at her. So, what should we do? We certainly are unable to read what's on a girl's mind.
 
Here's what worked for me and I know it sounds tough but it worked.

Let go of looking for a girl/guy. 100%! Be content to be single and accept that God has a plan for you and he'll bring you to it when it's time. For me I was in a serious relationship in less than three weeks.

So in short, do not chase guys/girls, chase God's will and be content with that chase your entire life.
 
Blazin Bones said:
Here's what worked for me and I know it sounds tough but it worked.

Let go of looking for a girl/guy. 100%! Be content to be single and accept that God has a plan for you and he'll bring you to it when it's time. For me I was in a serious relationship in less than three weeks.

So in short, do not chase guys/girls, chase God's will and be content with that chase your entire life.
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But girls aren't just going to show up on your front porch with a sign that says "God sent me to you".

I believe we can look around and date if neccessary. Nothing wrong in that. And if a girl you are dating is the one God has for you, then God will work it all out. I am sure God doesn't want us to stand by idle and wait for the right woman to show up at our house.
 
But girls aren't just going to show up on your front porch with a sign that says "God sent me to you".
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How do you know Dave? God may not have her holding a sign exactly, but I think that when it is the right time and the right person, you just know that God is in it. And as far as thinking God doesn't want you to just hang around idly while you wait....I don't think that praying is being idle at all. Praying for God's will and for your future wife is the BEST action you can take before you meet her! :thumb :amen
 
Great advice, Tim and Carolyn! Nothing further need be said.
 
caromurp said:
But girls aren't just going to show up on your front porch with a sign that says "God sent me to you".
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How do you know Dave? God may not have her holding a sign exactly, but I think that when it is the right time and the right person, you just know that God is in it. And as far as thinking God doesn't want you to just hang around idly while you wait....I don't think that praying is being idle at all. Praying for God's will and for your future wife is the BEST action you can take before you meet her! :thumb :amen
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I agree that God will bring the right one into my life if it is God's will. I never said I wouldn't pray. Praying is the best thing to do. I just meant that while I pray, I don't think it would be wrong to keep my eyes open. I wouldn't mind the doorbell ringing one day and have my wife be there waiting for me, but until I would get to know her, she would be a stranger. Which ever way God wishes to bring my wife to me is up to Him. I will certainly pray, but I will ask a girl out if I believe she would make a good spouse for me. There is nothing wrong or unBiblical about that. Perhaps God will lead me to the right girl to ask out. :yes

By the way, this thread has gone off topic. I am glad we are discussing it the way we are, but I would like some more thoughts on my original question if at all possible. :yes
 
caromurp said:
I digress... :shrug
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I don't know why you are digressing. I said I agree that praying is the best thing to do and also gave my thoughts on the subject.
 
As long as you don't push too far, Dave, pursuing someone who acts unavailable is ok. I'm not saying think like a rapist (where they imagine no meaning yes). If a woman says leave her alone-then you need to respect her wishes. If she says she's busy Friday or doesn't call or answer your calls as much, then you may have to "chase" a little. Get her attention by sending flowers or leaving her a nice email or voicemail once in a while. But don't call ten times a day or over flatter her. It's not a good look.
 
Well, I can only answer your question in the context of friendships, but at times, I have asked people to stop speaking to me but have later regretted my decision and wished they would continue to contact me. This wasn't in the context of a romantic relationship, but I assume the same can apply. Although, I wouldn't assume that someone wants you to chase after them. In any situation, it is always best to respect others' boundaries once they put them in place. Trust that the person means what they are saying; you shouldn't have to read in-between the lines if it is an honest relationship.
 
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