Do you think it is possible?

[JohnEboy1983]

Hello everyone. Here is my situation. I have known a girl for over a year and has great qualities about her. I finally let her know how much I like her and we had a very short time, maybe a couple days where we kissed each other. The problem is she is not ready for a relationship because she is not quite happy with her current life. She wants to be with her son and she said she actually would go back to her ex boyfriend. I ended the kissing thing and told her we could only be friends because I cant get attached and give my whole heart and all my loyalty, commitment and dedication to somebody who still likes somebody else, wants to be somewhere else and especially with her son and that cannot give back the same in return to me. We still talk and just as friends. I know I cannot get serious with somebody who feels trapped right now, however I do have a great love for this girl and just as a friend. I am always trying to encourage her. She tells me that I am one of a kind. I told her God will bring her the right person someday but she has to be ready to give her whole self and be happy with herself completely before she does. She told me she believes that she allready met that guy and that it is me but it may never happen because of circumtances. Sometimes you hear that God may not give us anybody yet because he is preparing the other person. I somewhat feel that she possibly could be too, but God still has to deal with her a lot more in her becoming complete. Maybe nothing will ever come of it though and all we will ever be is friends, but what do you think? Is it possible? I do realize that we cannot be together right now because she is not complete in herself, but do you think its possible God is shaping her for me? I am going to stay open to other people in my life though. Whats your thoughts?

 

[Empty-Handed-Way]

Re: "Do you think it is possible?" & "Prayer Please"

Hey Ninja250;

I'll reply to this post and your "Prayer Please" one here. (I'm assuming it's the same girl...)
Perhaps she is the one, but for the time I believe you've made the right choice. I wouldn't advise trusting your emotions in such situations. She sounds like she does indeed still have some issues to work through yet, and until she has done so it's probably best to give her some space. As much as we may dislike it, the only one who can change someone is that person and God. This sounds like something she needs to work out with herself and Him before moving on.

Will definitely pray for you!

 

[JohnEboy1983]

Yes you are right it is the same one and thanks for the reply. God is in control and I know that. I just needed to get it out there. I suppose thats how I am when things bother me. I really doubt she is the person for me anymore, but let God have his perfect work in my life.

 

[darktipper]

I think in this case you can be her friend but I think you need to be with someone else. Plus she has a child and history with the other guy who is possibly the father of her child. Hopefully she can reconcile with her child's father so they can be a happy family. Sometimes we give into who we "think" we should be with but in reality sometimes things workout better when a relationship dies for you own good even if it may be painful. Plus she blatantly told you that she actually prefers her ex. I think God may have done you a huuuuuuge favor on this one.

 

[JohnEboy1983]

darktipper,

you understand the situation. Yes the other guy is the father of the child. Although I cant remain friends, I just have my feelings for her taking over. I think in my case its better not to see her anymore unless its in church.