I haven't heard of Mr. Comfort before, but I thought he was being very loving, and denying himself, by confronting this man. I did not seem him as judgemental. I thought he was being very compassionate toward this man. How can someone be convicted of their sin, if they do not hear God's Word and Law about the matter? Isn't the first step in coming to Christ realizing that you are sinner in need of remission through the blood?
The fact that Mr. Victor was so sweet probably caused him to be moved to an even greater compassion. It did me, I wanted him to just weep and repent over his sin right there...how wonderful and freeing that would have been for him. I think this compassion spurned Mr. Comfort on to continue to use the truth to try to convert him and save him from hell. Sometimes we have to speak the Law so that sin can be revealed in the hearts of men, and so that people can have an opportunity to repsond to the Holy Spirit's conviction with genuine repentance and a desire to really follow Jesus. It is not loving to just be nice and let him remain comfortable in a salvation that isn't based in the truth, and is likely not real. His eternal well-being is the higher concern.
When Jesus spoke to the rich young ruler he cut straight to the Law so that this man's sinful heart could be revealed, so that he could truly see his need for Jesus, but the man loved his idol more. Mr. Comfort likened Mr. Victor's sin to an idol too. When king Josiah read the book of the Law, he wept, and he tore down the idols from the high places. It was the Law that brought him to repentance and his reponse to that repentance was to knock those idols down, even those that occupied the highest places. This is an example of a heart that is converted to Christ, and has received salvation.
It would have been different if Mr. Victor said, "Yes, I am bound by this sin, please help me!" Then he could have been discipled, and guided, so that he could once and for all be delivered from a sin that was shackeling him. He didn't do this, he said that he did not interpret the Scripture as saying that homosexuality is a sin...this is a refusal to tear down the idol that he worships above God, and an unwillingness to be delivered. Maybe he went away sorrowful like the rich young ruler did. I pray that God uses the Word to change his heart on the matter. It would be better to stuggle with his flesh his entire life, than to never deny himself and die in his sin. Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow me. Like Isaac, lay your flesh on the alter, allow it to be killed, and then you can follow Christ all the way through to the resurrection and living in the presence of God for eternity. It's not free, it will cost you. Jesus said this to His disciples: Matthew 10:38-39 "And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who has found his life will lose it, and he who has lost his life for My sake will find it.
Complacency, which is what his church is teaching him according to his own words, is the most dangerous state to be in...you have a sense of security about your standing with God when in reality you may have no standing with God at all. How will these people know, if we aren't loving enough to tell them? I would rather be walking my faith out with fear and trembling than be living completely secure in my lost and sinful state. Sorry this turned out to be so long...didn't realize I had this much to say when I started. Just my thoughts. May the Lord bless all of you.