Hello all and god bless. ive been saved for some time now. or so i thought. ive been going to church on and off for about 4 years now. up until recently i was just talking thew talk but not walking the walk. lately the lord has really opened my mind to the bible and to turning from sin. however im having trouble figuring out his will and mine. for instance, ill get a thought to quit my job. however i work for a saved man and my co worker is the man that lead to me Christ to begin with, although he is currently back slidden. but the problem at hand is this. im a young guy and lately ive had a dilemma regarding a girl. this girl really really likes me. however she is like i used to be.shes not saved but i mean, i brought church up to her and she said shes open to go and learn about god. she is unsaved. now she is not a bad girl but she is not a christian girl by any means either. i think this girls is beautiful. i want to start dating and hanging out with her but i get conflicting verses from the bible. on one hand i feel as though i should try and lead here to Christ, on the other i feel i should not be yoked with un believers. now i know fornicating is a sin, and i dont plan on that at all, lately the lord has really helped me with lust issues. now when i sit and think i get all confused because i start to think too much. i think maybe its god trying to get me to help her, and on the other i say maybe Satan trying to separate me from god. what should i do? i think she is cute and just want someone to cuddle with and spend time with when lonely ( is it bad that i think shes cute but her personality im still learning?). now i know God comes before her. but i just get this feeling to not do it but idk if its god or Satan. im super confused and dont know what to do. my pastor is a good man and says try it out and see what happens but i get conflicting feelings. like im the kinda guy that always thinks i can change a girl and lead her to Christ. idk im super confused and hate this feeling. sorry if this is jumbled but i cant think. ive been all confused with my will and gods will the past few months and haven't been able to think straight.
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Dont wanna mess this up..seeking advice...
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theLords
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You shouldn't date her with the idea that "you will change her." That's never a good plan!
Focus on your relationship with Christ, and pray for this girl that she accept Christ's salvation. It would not be wise to start a relationship with her. Every relationship that a Christian enters into should be a potential spouse. There's no point int getting attached, or beginning a relationship when you know it will end in a breakup. It leads to way too many broken hearts and broken relationships with God.
Focus on your relationship with Christ, and pray for this girl that she accept Christ's salvation. It would not be wise to start a relationship with her. Every relationship that a Christian enters into should be a potential spouse. There's no point int getting attached, or beginning a relationship when you know it will end in a breakup. It leads to way too many broken hearts and broken relationships with God.
Nick
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"I want to start dating her but I get conflicting verses from the Bible".
Well there's your answer right there.
"Missionary dating" is never a good idea. Dating should always be almost a 'testing ground' for marriage. A Biblical marriage involves two believers and God. The believers both have God at the centre of their lives, and their marriage. Now if these to people in the marriage don't have the same focus, ie one is a Christian and the other is not, there is going to be conflict sooner or later, or at the least, they both don't have the goals and beliefs. It's just not a good idea.
Paul explains it this way:
Well there's your answer right there.
"Missionary dating" is never a good idea. Dating should always be almost a 'testing ground' for marriage. A Biblical marriage involves two believers and God. The believers both have God at the centre of their lives, and their marriage. Now if these to people in the marriage don't have the same focus, ie one is a Christian and the other is not, there is going to be conflict sooner or later, or at the least, they both don't have the goals and beliefs. It's just not a good idea.
Paul explains it this way:
2 Corinthians 6
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,
"I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they shall be my people.
17Therefore go out from their midst,
and be separate from them, says the Lord,
and touch no unclean thing;
then I will welcome you,
18 and I will be a father to you,
and you shall be sons and daughters to me,
says the Lord Almighty."
14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said,
"I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them,
and I will be their God,
and they shall be my people.
17Therefore go out from their midst,
and be separate from them, says the Lord,
and touch no unclean thing;
then I will welcome you,
18 and I will be a father to you,
and you shall be sons and daughters to me,
says the Lord Almighty."