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Hello guys.
I'm a 16 year old Baptist who needs help.
I attend to church.
But i have a little problem...
My boyfriend smokes marijuana...
and well he knows i don't like it...
please...
All I'm asking for is help.
I need to make him see that smoking is not good...
help?
Thanks. God bless you all.
 
Welcome to the forum!

Here's the thing...he already knows it isn't good. He also knows you don't like it. He is smoking it anyway and most likely will continue to do so.

People rarely if ever stop doing something they like just because someone else points out that it's bad for them, or that the Bible teaches against it, or even that it's illegal. (Don't know if it's illegal in your area or not.)

This isn't to say that no one ever changes...but change will always come about from being convicted on the inside, not from outward pressures.

A lot of women think that if a guy loves her, he'll give things up for her, or do things for her, and he might in the short term. But, unless the change is coming from his own heart, he'll most likely go back to it.

This is why, when you are with someone, you take stock of all there is about them with the understanding that you get what you get, good, bad and ugly. You need to decide if you can live with all of it. And, you need to determine what things are "deal breakers".

Again, he already knows it's not good for him, but he isn't going to stop doing it. You need to decide if his pot smoking is a "deal breaker". If it is, break it off. If it isn't, sit down and have a good open talk with your parents and pastor/youth minister as to why you're OK with a guy who smokes pot.

One more thing...don't "threaten"...don't go the route of "If you don't stop, I'm breaking up with you." Threats are no foundation for a relationship. Accept him just the way he is, or move on.
 
I need to make him see that smoking is not good...
If he doesn't know that smoking ANYTHING is not good, I must ask you - how old IS he? I know our schools teach, well, nothing - but I THOUGHT they at least made it clear that smoking is a dead-end. I can see an eight year old not understanding this, but someone in their late teens should understand this.

Face it - he KNOWS, he just does not care. He also does not care that you don't like it.

How does that make YOU feel?
 
Hello guys.
I'm a 16 year old Baptist who needs help.
I attend to church.
But i have a little problem...
My boyfriend smokes marijuana...
and well he knows i don't like it...
please...
All I'm asking for is help.
I need to make him see that smoking is not good...
help?
Thanks. God bless you all.

Get a new boyfriend, a man who loves Jesus and walks in Jesus' path. Did Jesus or the Disciples smoke drugs? No they did not, so don't be with a boyfriend who does.

Ask yourself this question, "Does my boyfriend bring me closer to Jesus and closer to obedience to Jesus, or further away?".

Read my testimony in the testimony section, I am an ex drug dealer and drug user and when I came to Christ, I repented and not touched drugs ever since. If someone continues to smoke drugs, that's evidence they are religious only, and not a born again Christian, and non born again Christians will lead you astray and influence you in a wrong way. Bible says do not mix with these people regularly.

It's very important who you associate with and who you walk your life journey with, so choose a boyfriend who walks in Jesus' path.

God bless you.
 
Boyfriend??

I have never met anyone on drugs who I could ever consider a true friend. Marijuana, although held up by pot smokers as a "hamless drug", it is a very dangerous drug. It contains more carcinogenic properties than tobacco and chronic use destroys the mind. He will not change just because you want him to change. If it came down to a choice between you or marijuana he would probably choose it over you.
 
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