Encouragement and Wisdom?

[beyondinfinity]

Before I start, may you kindly avoid moving this thread to Christian talk & Advice? I don't know why, but I'm not allowed to go there even though I have stated that I was a Christian?

I seriously need help. I am so confused. To begin, I admit that I am not perfect and I accept that. I am also willing to accept that I need to change my ways and it's extremely difficult. I am trying to change. I sin. I sometimes argue with my mom because she offends me and I have gained a bad temper towards her. I try so hard but it's my way of defending myself. I want to do what's right by God.

I try to pray, but how do I know if I am praying correctly? I am a 14 year old girl by the way. I pray and ask God for forgiveness and that he will guide me in the right direction of his word. I am so focused on "hearing him." I am a auditory learner and I feel that's the only way that I can connect. I want to do this correctly. Can you please explain how to do this?

I have also took a very important test that will determine if I get into another high school. I've taken it last year and didn't score enough points to get into the school I was aiming for. This depressed me. I am not happy with the school I am and it upsets me a bit just thinking about it. I have studied for the test better than I did before, but the test was still a bit hard. I prayed constantly and even placed my bible in my bag. I was hoping to be convinced that this would bring me closer to God and that God/Jesus were with me while taking the test. I prayed that I would avoid careless mistakes, if things were difficult they would become easier, and if I just didn't know something my guess would be accurate. Now that I have finished the test I am so very anxious and scared! I want to get accepted into the school. I want to prove my mom wrong and others who have constantly called me stupid. I want to prove myself wrong.

I want to be the person I am intended to be. I just wish I knew how. Can someone please kindly help? It's seriously stressing me out.

 

[Aardverk]

......... I sometimes argue with my mom because she offends me and I have gained a bad temper towards her. I try so hard but it's my way of defending myself.............
I have also took a very important test that will determine if I get into another high school. I've taken it last year and didn't score enough points to get into the school I was aiming for. This depressed me. I am not happy with the school I am and it upsets me a bit just thinking about it............ I want to get accepted into the school. I want to prove my mom wrong and others who have constantly called me stupid. I want to prove myself wrong.

Hello infinitejewel

Firstly - there are no magic answers to your problems. Don't wait for a simple solution to your problems - there isn't one

Without wishing to talk down to you, the problem is called 'growing up'. At 14, you are well on your way but you still have much to learn about life, people and academia. If you assume that you are as wise as your parents and everyone else, you are bound to end up depressed because you simply can't be at 14. Many imagine themselves as wise as their parents as soon as they realize that they have knowledge that their parents do not have. That is very obviously a huge mistake.

On the plus side, someone far wiser than me once said, 'It is a good job children question their elders or we would never make any progress' - or words to that effect. You appear to be seeking the right balance of questioning authority and recognizing your own abilities & shortcomings. That is pretty well what being a human being is all about. ALL of us are in the same position. You only have to read this forum for a few weeks to see how many people simply do not realize their own abilities. Obviously I can't name anyone but some people are obviously rather dense and some are quite brilliant at pointing at an answer:yes

I want to be the person I am intended to be. I just wish I knew how. Can someone please kindly help? It's seriously stressing me out.

Most people don't believe in predestination but those who do would probably tell you that you undoubtedly WILL be the person you are intended to be. If you don't believe in predestination, just work as hard as you reasonably can consistent with a tolerable work/play balance.

You may or may not end up as a famous doctor or movie star but for all you know, you may be on your way to playing a crucial role in some other way that you have not yet foreseen. The best advice I can offer for life is to listen carefully to those with more experience of life and then think for yourself.

Good luck ;)