Flirting?

[Jesusfreak97]

So there's this guy at my school and I consider him a friend and we banter a lot. Also I am the most tickilish person alive so he will poke me and I will jum around and make high pitched noises (trust me that I can't help). anyway he will also do stuff like pull me in to his lap and we will snuggle and all that stuff. Today he gave me a massage (because he accidentally hit me in the nose he did it as a way to make up). I was totally fine with him massaging me because he's like a brother but I am starting to wonder is what he doing flirting?

Also if this is flirting how can I handle this so that we can still go about our usual banter like usual but...cut out the flirty stuff?

 

[Hanna]

Yes it sounds like flirting me...also sounds like he might like you a bit more than maybe you like him...not sure thou...At my school,(I attended a Christian school until just this past Feb...I am homeschooled this semester but plan to go back in the fall) we weren't even allowed to sit on a guys lap or snuggle or any of that...the teachers were pretty strict about that kind of stuff.
Maybe you should try and tell him that you are uncomfortable when he does that and see what he says...just an idea.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Hanna is spot on. This is 100% flirting with a guy. I have a sister, and very rarely in life have we ever got to wear we would tickle each other or snuggle. Some siblings will, but it's rare. This behavior is not rare with a guy. I'm guilty of the exact same behavior with a friend of mine in high school. I liked her tons, but it was never mutual. Try to limit how much you let him do this, and when he realizes you've pulled back, he'll say something. Then you can ask him some honest questions.

(BTW, welcome to the fringe of adult life.)

 

[Jesusfreak97]

Oh joy. What should I ask him? He isn't the kind of guy I would think that would answer honestly...

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[Jman96]

IMO I wouldn't want to be asked anything, just back of and don't play around. He will get the picture.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Jman's got the idea. Just change how you let him interact with you. Either he'll get the message or he'll ask what happened. We'll all be sure to pray for you in this.

 

[Jman96]

he will also do stuff like pull me in to his lap and we will snuggle and all that stuff.

Be careful how far you go. This kind of thing where you are in his lap can easily be seen as flirting and allowing it. If you draw the line he should respect that. Be careful he knows exactly what kind of relationship you two want and need. You have my prayers for God to lead you.