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Flirting...

One cannot flirt without lusting or without desiring sex on some level because flirting is just a term for "reproductive signaling".
 
at that point you will have to marry :'>

Featherbop said:
One cannot flirt without lusting or without desiring sex on some level because flirting is just a term for "reproductive signaling".



at that point you will have to marry :'>


:-D
 
I don't have a problem with the playfully romantic aspect of "flirting". I've flirted before and I wasn't lusting after a person. To each his own. Each Christian has their own unique struggle. This is not one of mine. God Bless and flirt right :).
 
Re: the line

another dave said:
you draw the line at inciting lust
That line varies from person to person.

Also, what one considers playful and harmless flirting, the one it is directed at could take it as a come on.
 
I never had a problem with that before.

But that may be because girls are intimidated by my excessively good( by good I mean wretched) looks...

But enough about animals.

Maybe it would be a good idea to say what kind of things you consider flirting and what you don't. That way we can determine where the disconnect is. Who knows? We may learn something.

Now, I am a big flirt, but it's only a ploy to strike up conversation. And the girls who hardly know understand that I'm just a harmless, lovable little fuzz ball.

So, if I see a friend(a girl), I might say," Hello, sweety", or "Hey, Beautiful"

I consider these things sincere considering sometimes a gals having a tough day and needs a silly pick-me-up. And I hug everyone, regardless of gender.

But I do consider somethings off limits, like "Hey, Sexy." That kind of stuff has only one connotation.

But what do you think?

(P.S. Everyone is beautiful.Let them know it.)
 
I get called "sweetie" and "honey" and that kind of thing all the time by customers at work. I'm not particularly fond of it, but it doesn't bother me too bad. Something like that I don't suppose is really all that bad, but like you said, when you start calling people "sexy" and such, then you're going too far.
 
Yeah, I could understand that. It's just a little strange when people you don't know greet you like that. Sometimes people say "sweetie" or "honey" a sarcastic tone and then it's not very endearing at all. It's almost like they're talking down to you.

It's hard these days though. The nervous guy is picked on, so now a boy will hardly ever approach a girl with any reverence at all. Sometimes I'll be in a new place and just look for someone to talk to. If it's a guy it's fine, but as soon as a strange guy talks to a girl, she's afraid he's flirting. If I said hello to a strange girl, I wouldn't be flirting, I'd simply be trying to strike up conversation.

So what do you think? Do you think that there is a disconnect between guy and girls these days that makes flirting seem unavoidable?
 
Oh yes, post number 1,600! Sorry, but I just happened to notice, so a small celebration must ensue!

Okay, on to your question....

Although I'm not used to that wording, I think I know what you are asking.

I think in certain situations it wouldn't be all that strange or seen as flirting. Like at a youth group meeting or something. Especially if you didn't act or say thing flirtatiously. Now if you were in the middle of a mall or an airport or something and started talking to a girl you didn't know, then it might be more likely to be considered flirting.

Of course, I also think that much of what flirting is depends on what's being said and how it's being said. A lot also depends on your actions and the look on your face, quite frankly. I know this is not a fool-proof thing, but in general, it's probably about right.

I don't get flirted with much at work, but some (okay, pretty much all) of the other girls do. I can stand back and watch the guys talking to them and tell by the look on their face whether they're flirting or not. Of course, the girls are obviously flirting right back too, but I still find it interesting to watch.

Really, though, if you appear sincere and don't act too cocky and debonaire during your first two or three sentences, then I don't figure the girl would think you're flirting too much. After a talking a bit, if you relax and flirt a bit more - but not too much - then I don't really see a problem with that.

I don't know if this helped much, but maybe it did.
 
I guess girls have it harder than guys in that respect. We can be pretty cocky jerks sometimes.

So what do you think? Would you rather a I guy come right out and ask you about what you're doing, or would you rather him take it slow and just start of with some silly jokes or something?

And, I don't know, but it always seems like guys are doing all the flirting.
What are some tell tale signs that the girl is flirting? I've never seen the girl make the first move...well, scratch that, I saw it once, but it was more like she would painted it un a billboard for him to get it.
 
I don't really know. It'd probably depend on the situation and the mood I was in. I'd probably be more comfortable if a guy were to say, "How are you doing?" or "Nice weather we've got today." or something, and then converse from there. I'm a really shy person, though, so I would most likely be wondering an awful lot about the person talking to me either way.

I don't know about what a girl would do in making the first move in flirting. I have seen the girls at work flirt right back with guys. Make silly comments about hair and clothes and stuff. There is one girl that I work with, though, who has a tendency to say "Hey, Tookie" really loud, but she says it to her boyfriend, her friends, regular customers, even the boss. Then again, she's not shy by any means. If she thinks it, it's most likely gonna come out of her mouth, even if it's not to the person she's talking about. Anyway...

I'm sorry if I'm not helping much, but I'm not much a flirt. I just don't know on some things.
 
Don't worry. It's not like I'm trying ascertain the beset method of flirting or anything... :wink:
 
GundamZero said:
So what do you think? Do you think that there is a disconnect between guy and girls these days that makes flirting seem unavoidable?

Hehe, I'm here to resurrect an old thread.


I think this is somewhat the case though. I'm a little shy, especially when around guys my age or older, and I can be bad when it comes to just striking up normal conversation. I'm always trying to read into what they're true meaning is behind what they're saying, or if there is any "deeper" meaning. :P lol Something I'm trying to work on. But I think flirting in a broader term has becomes semi-normal now between guys and girls. Whether or not that's a good thing I don't know, as long as it's not inappropriate, which differs from person to person. I don't mind a little playful flirting, as long as it's not provacative or pushy. But I do think that it's unavoidable in many instances, as you said.
-McQ 8-)
 
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