God describes Himself as Father, or a He, because it was His intention to make Men after the pattern of leadership, and authority, that He Himself has as the Father of all believers. This is not a value issue, but rather an issue of what one's role is in the plan. Father God has authored a plan, and Christ submits to it. Is Christ less? No, but Christ even said that the things He spoke were those things that the Father instructed Him to speak...He only taught the doctrines of His Father. He was an obedient Son...even unto death. Gender is not the point, but rather role. Men have been given a role of authority in the home, over wives who are to submit, and over children who are to be obedient. Jesus is the bridegroom, and His wife...the church...should be submissive to His headship. The family is a model of a much greater structure, a training ground, but mostly a Gospel picture, of God's plan and relationship with man. God has many names to describe Himself, but we do not know them all truly because of sin's distortion.
God does have a wholeness that man will never have on this earth, and that is that He can produce life and nurture it with food...physical and spiritual. He made us dependant on the family structure to futher teach us of Him. This attribute of producing wife and nurturing it He has given to the woman, but through the seed of men. Her womb and ability to provide food, are also a picture of Him. The seed is also a picture. It's truly not about us, but we are to be living obedient sacrifices to point others to Him. Men may have bad intentions about these Godly principals, but that is the sin of men. Chauvinism, and feminism, are not God's...these are a distortion, and are vain in His sight...they man-centered ideas. Value isn't determined by us, but rather by God...the role that we are in is ordained, and valued by God, if we are His vessels.
Billy Graham served God as the Holy Spirit led him. A believing father whose name we will never know, is also led by the Holy Spirit to serve God in that role. A mother the same, and a believing child the same. If I am a janitor, or a doctor, but working to please God in all, then my value is not subject to the world's views or ideas. God's view is one of truth, and the only one that matters.
He is a 'He' in position, the leader and authority over all creation. It's not about gender, but about getting to know God. The Father of all believers. The lifegiver, the Seed Provider, the Nourisher. Christ, our brother, our kinsmen, and bridegroom is the Son, and the Seed that has produced Life in us. The Holy Spirit our Teacher, our Comforter. Pictures of God exist in all human relationships, but it is the man-centered ideas that break them down, and distort that picture by bringing sin into the mix. This should give us a new encouragement to strive for obedience in these areas so that God's Word is furthered in this world, and in our own hearts.
I am so rushed right now, I hope this makes sense. The Lord bless all of you.