I would like some honest opinions on if I have sinned in this situation/done the wrong thing.
I am close to my brother and have always believed in putting family first.
He had a girlfriend. We became friends; our friends became her friends. I found out my brother had an affair. It put me in a hard place, between my family and a friend. I immediately came to him privately to tell him to do the right thing: stop the affair, come clean to girlfriend so she knows the truth. But I never brought it up again because 1.) I felt he was/is responsible for correcting his own mistakes. I am not responsible for others' discretions 2.) I don't like medaling in other's business/relationships; it doesn't feel my place to be involved after I've said my peace.
He ended up proposing later and then coming clean shortly before the wedding. I DO regret not bringing it up again when he proposed, because I found out (after he came clean) that the affair had continued after our discussion. But even then, I would have just pushed him to do the right thing and have him be the one to tell, not me. He was also suicidal when all this mess had started, so if something had happened to him because of motions I initiated, I would never have forgiven myself. Was I wrong in not telling the girlfriend in the first place?
I am close to my brother and have always believed in putting family first.
He had a girlfriend. We became friends; our friends became her friends. I found out my brother had an affair. It put me in a hard place, between my family and a friend. I immediately came to him privately to tell him to do the right thing: stop the affair, come clean to girlfriend so she knows the truth. But I never brought it up again because 1.) I felt he was/is responsible for correcting his own mistakes. I am not responsible for others' discretions 2.) I don't like medaling in other's business/relationships; it doesn't feel my place to be involved after I've said my peace.
He ended up proposing later and then coming clean shortly before the wedding. I DO regret not bringing it up again when he proposed, because I found out (after he came clean) that the affair had continued after our discussion. But even then, I would have just pushed him to do the right thing and have him be the one to tell, not me. He was also suicidal when all this mess had started, so if something had happened to him because of motions I initiated, I would never have forgiven myself. Was I wrong in not telling the girlfriend in the first place?