help w/ girl

[<3Jesus<3]

well heres the story:
i'm single and have been all my life, and just recently, a few girls i know, i just recently found out like me. and i have a pretty close guy friend named joe, and he just broke up with his girlfriend. but now his x-girlfriend is asking me out... i dont know what to say cause i kinda like her, but if i say yes i dont know what my friend joe will say/do.
if you think i should not get together with her, then explain what/how i should say it to her plz and say why.
i know most of the answers will be that anyways. i'm just not sure what to do, cause she likes me and i like her.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Are we talking just one date, or are we talking the modern style of instant relationship? I don't mean to come off kinda stingy, it'll just help me help you. In either case, prayer is the first thing that needs to be done. 8-)

 

[Gendou Ikari]

Like Timothy, the first thing that you should do is pray.

If you answer a few questions it would help me help you:

1. How close are you with Joe?

2. How long were they dating?

3. Who officially ended their relationship?

 

[This_Beautiful_Faith]

This post was made about 12 days ago. I'd be interested to know what you decided to do in the end.

You said that your friend Joe was pretty close to you. You also said that you only 'kinda like' his ex-girlfriend. Straight away this tells me something. You're feelings don't sound overally strong for this girl. If your feelings were so unbelievably strong for her to the point where you didn't think you could live without her, maybe then you'd decide that it would be worth it, but how strong are your feelings for her now and how much do you value your friendship with your friend? Ask yourself, is it really worth pursuing a relationship with your close friend's ex, with the risk that it may affect your friendship with him?

When we discover that someone likes us, it's pretty common to straight away question our feelings for them and begin to think that we do have feelings for them also. If you hadn't found out that she liked you, would you be interested in her now? Really think about this. I personally think it's awesome that you've never dated before. If you do decide to date, I encourage you to put a lot of thought and prayer into it first and be picky about who you date. I'd advise you to not settle with any girl who likes you, but instead seek first best - God's choice for you. =)

Like the others have mentioned, if there is anything I could really encourage you to do it would be to PRAY about it - a lot! It may sound over-used but I don't think there is any better advice than that.

 

[Gendou Ikari]

Yes, I too would very much like to know the outcome of your situation.

 

[Joey]

Hey, this is just my opinion and probably won't help but I would suggest telling her you like her but you want to make sure its OK with your mate.
Then check with him cause he hopefully want mind.

 

[rover]

if i was in your situation i would probably not date her, cause i dont want to risk conlfict with friends. BUT if he is a true friend he wont mind you dating her...but we are jealous creatures so watch out

 

[Christ's Lil' Headbanger]

well heres the story:
i'm single and have been all my life, and just recently, a few girls i know, i just recently found out like me. and i have a pretty close guy friend named joe, and he just broke up with his girlfriend. but now his x-girlfriend is asking me out... i dont know what to say cause i kinda like her, but if i say yes i dont know what my friend joe will say/do.
if you think i should not get together with her, then explain what/how i should say it to her plz and say why.
i know most of the answers will be that anyways. i'm just not sure what to do, cause she likes me and i like her.

Of course the Christian 'correct' answer is pray about it. I will say this though: A friend is worth a lot more than a temporary (or possibly long of course, but more often temporary) relationship with a girl. I don't know about you, but my friendships are what keep me holdin' on 'til the next day comes around.