Help!

[glandias]

Ok I don't want any agenda driven response that indirectly or directly mean something else, and if you do know what I'm talking about then just don't do it, otherwise I will just not even participate in this forum or any other forum about this very important matter. I don't need anybody to push "issues" on to me, cuz I already have more then enough negative stuff to deal with it in the first place. If this doesn't apply to you, then just ignore the above statement, just going through some very rough and confusing times right now, and just seems like everybody that I know/don't know seems to be doing exactly what I've explained above, and quite frankly am sick and tired of it, and just upset that everybody seems to have this united front. (and just to clear things up, in case anybody is under the impression I'm parnanoid or whatever, you try going through what I've gone through my life these past months, and then maybe you would be more humble enough to not blame me for being as pro-active as I am about this, just not into playing other peoples "games")

Ok, getting the disclaimer outta the way here is my question:

My friend, who at one point in his life felt confident about who he was as a person (to a greater extent) and now it appears that he has pretty much lost any self-identity with himself, pretty much feeling embarrased about what's been going on around him, through his actions and speech. Pretty much feels like his whole life has been a fraud, and there isn't anything he can do about it. It feels like he's apparently just an actor about everything that he does. Every action he takes, every kind of comment that he makes (whether he is thinking out loud to himself, or whether he is having a conversation) is apparently an act of some sort, thus making it fake. So here is the question...how can a person become they're REAL self, when they don't know who they're REAL self is, or that is the way it appears to them, instead of the persona of acting/fakeness that he presents even though he still doesn't seem to understand how that is the case, or how he is like that, it just the impression that other people have of him (this being said to him in one form or another) He feels confused and ashamed for what's taken place, and has no clue how to change himself to become this real self so he can end this garbage of acting/fakeness that shouldn't even be there in the first place. He's come to me asking for advice, and he almost seems desperate because everything that he has tried, or thought of hasn't worked at all. PLEASE HAVE THE HEART TO RESPOND!!! He's at a wits end on what to do, and things just seem to be getting worse and worse all the time. PLEASE HELP, and please respond "on-topic" cuz anything else isn't appreciated.

Thank you for addressing this cry of help.

Anon.

 

[Ivy]

Your "disclaimer" reminds me of the scene in "The Grinch" where he listens back to his own message on his recording machine, and wonders why no one leaves him a message! ;)

It sounds like your friend has a true friend in you - you seem to understand him quite well. All any of us need in this life, next to the love of the Lord, is a true friend or two. They aren't easy to come by, but a true friend understands when others don't. Anybody can be misjudged, it's a very common problem. I think your friend needs to be most concerned about what God thinks of him, not other people.

 

[Carol Lowery]

Your "disclaimer" reminds me of the scene in "The Grinch" where he listens back to his own message on his recording machine, and wonders why no one leaves him a message! ;)

I second that one....if you can't accept what the Lord lays on someone's heart/mind/soul to speak in HIS wisdom, and want us to speak by your guide lines instead of the guide lines Christ... perhaps you are in the wrong forum. No one here knows what you want to hear and not hear, were not mind readers.

So I'm going to claim your disclaimer of not knowing what you're talking about, though the Lord had laid the burden of what it is on my spirit/soul to pray.

Sometimes answers can only be found with-in the individual and God.

 

[turnorburn]

Well now what brought this on?

 

[Carol Lowery]

I don't know Lee, it seems he wants help with the issue, but on his terms instead of God's.