HELP!

[heavens_angel]

My boyfriend and i have been talking about getting married for so time now but he hasn't popped the question yet. we talk about having a family, a wedding or not, holidays with our own family. i don't knwo if i should wait for him or not. i say that b/c my x is bacl (we broke up b/c he left state) and we had all these plans about getting married if he ever came back, but i don't lovehim any more (i just wanna be friends). plz help me

 

[Quath]

I think no matter what, you will just have to tell your ex that you only have friendship feelings for him. It sucks, but most guys get to hear that sometime in their life. Better for you to be truthful and forthright than to have him wonder.

As for your boyfriend, I don't think it is wrong to bring it up and see what timeline he is opperating on. As long as it is not nagging, I don't think a guy will feel too pressured. However, I think if there is any doubt, it is better to wait than to jump into anything.

Quath

 

[Featherbop]

First of all, I would say don't jump into anything quickly. Give things time, if it is supposed to happen, it will. Secondly, if you want to be friends only with your ex, then you need to get the message to him as quickly as possible, so as not to mislead.

 

[Guest]

8-) I'd like to add to this if I may? Please,please,please,do not have
sex with him before marriage. If you do,you'll take this baggage into any
future marriage you have with him,or anyone else.
Spare yourself the agony of it if you can.

 

[Blazin Bones]

Be Honest with both men, and trust God to guide you. That's all I would want or expect from a girlfriend or X of mine.

 

[Guest]

:smt060 I agree. Be honest with both of them,and avoid the
act of sex.I Forgot to answer that part. Sorry.