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"Honor you father and mother" = loving neighbors?

wavy

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A lot of people divide the ten words into "love Yahweh" (1-4) and "love your neighbor as yourself" (5-10).

But I think #5 is part of loving Yahweh. Why? They are Yahweh's authority on earth to children. The are supposed to teach Torah and guide their children in Torah (Deuteronomy 4:10; Deuteronomy 6:7; Deuteronomy 11:9).

They are also not your "neighbors". You are supposed to love them, of course, but that is not what Torah says specifically. Toray says to even fear them (Leviticus 19:3), just as we fear Yahweh. Torah says "Cursed is he..." that takes them lightly (Deuteronomy 27:16). The word for "honor" (as in "honor your father and mother") is the Hebrew word for "heavy". The word for "light" or "setteth light", as it appears in the KJV, means "light" (as opposed to heavy, and translated "dishonor" in some translations).

I, personally, need to work on not taking my parents "lightly", since I just turned 18 and feel like ignoring them sometimes. :-D

But anyway, that's my case. You don't love them as yourself. They are not your equals. You fear them and keep their commandments (since they are supposed to bring you up in the ways of Yahweh).

And it does not say "little ones", btw. It says "children", as in the "children of Israel" (not as if they were little). That means, if they are still alive, you honor them till they die, no matter how old you are. Yahweh was speaking to all who had parents when he spoke from Sinai.

So, do we obey our parents as if we were still living with them and were still young, or do we "take them lightly/dishonor" them?

If your parents forbad something you wanted to do, for example, would you say "I am grown and out the house, you can't tell me what to do" or do we listen to them?

Just a little something to think about.
 
I tend to see the first four commandments as those that address our behavior toward God and the last six as those that address our behavior toward others, whether they be parents or neighbors. But I get your point.

Yes, we are to always honor our parents, but that doesn't mean you rely on them to make your decisions for you or tell you what to do. If you are still dependent on your parents, then yes, they have more say-so in what you should or shouldn't do. But at some point you become wholely responsible for yourself. That doesn't mean you ignore your parents wishes. Honoring them doesn't mean you always do what they say, either. When you become completely independent as an adult you honor your parents by seeking their advice and carefully considering their wisdom.
 
I tend to see the first four commandments as those that address our behavior toward God and the last six as those that address our behavior toward others, whether they be parents or neighbors. But I get your point.
*Agrees without any further comment* :-D
 
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