How do you stop school bullying?

[MrVersatile48]

How do you stop school bullying?

Are you affected by school bullying?

A group of MPs has raised concerns about how some children, who are victims of bullying, are being excluded from school for safety reasons.

The Education select committee wants the government to issue new guidance on bullying to schools in England.

The MPs suggest that pupils should be able to suggest suitable punishments for bullies in their school.

How do you stop bullying? Should pupils suggest how bullies should be penalised? Are you a victim of bullying who has been excluded? Do schools take bullying seriously?


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[ChristineES]

Bully should not be tolerated in any form. If these were adults beating up on someone weaker, they would be charged with assault. Since they are not adults, we have to think of another solution and sensitivity training sounds corny.

I know that a lot of bullies become bullies because they are bullied themselves by parents and so on. Maybe that could be looked into.

When I was a child, I was teased terribly (though not beat up). The teachers turned a blind eye to it. They did nothing to stop it. Maybe they felt that the kids should work it out for themselves (that can be a solution but only on a limited basis). If the authorities would stop ignoring the problem, maybe they can make some headway on it. It wouldn't stop it all, not even close, but at least maybe some victims can feel as though they don't deserve bullying just because they are nonassertive.

 

[mutzrein]

Make an example of the bully - we used to call it corporal punishment.

 

[Nikki]

There is a no bullying law in my kids school system. Not all the schools abide by it though (hence, why we removed ours from one school a few years ago). The principle at their current school DOES though. She takes ANY threat or bullying serious. My daughter was being bullied by a kid on her bus. She told her teacher, who then told the principle. The principle interviewed my daughter, my younger daughter and a few other kids. The "bully" is now sitting in an assigned seat at the front of the bus alone and he is not to speak a word to my daughters.

I like the fact that the principle took charge and handled it. Most would turn a blind eye or else wait until the parents came to the school and complained. They listened to my daughter, took her serious and for that I commend her. :D

 

[guibox]

As an educator, my experience with bullying tells me that the best bet is to get the parent's involved. Too many times the parents expect the teachers to deal with everything.

If a parent knows that his/her child is being a bully that is the best way deal with it (unless the parent is an absolute moron who makes excuses for their child on continual basis).

The teachers can 'punish' as best as they can, but that doesn't help when some of the bullying goes on after school. I believe that instead of sitting down in the principal's office day in and day out, a sit down occurs between the parents and kids of the bully and the one being bullied.

That nips it in the bud much quicker and more effective than the teacher having to be on the watchout all the time for this bully and the poor scared kid who always gets it when the teacher isn't watching.

 

[Nikki]

As an educator, my experience with bullying tells me that the best bet is to get the parent's involved. Too many times the parents expect the teachers to deal with everything.

If a parent knows that his/her child is being a bully that is the best way deal with it (unless the parent is an absolute moron who makes excuses for their child on continual basis).

The teachers can 'punish' as best as they can, but that doesn't help when some of the bullying goes on after school. I believe that instead of sitting down in the principal's office day in and day out, a sit down occurs between the parents and kids of the bully and the one being bullied.

That nips it in the bud much quicker and more effective than the teacher having to be on the watchout all the time for this bully and the poor scared kid who always gets it when the teacher isn't watching.

That doesn't always work though. The school that we took my daugher out of had the parents of the bully up there almost daily. He continued to bully my daughter to the point that he would physically harm her and she had bruises from him. It's almost as if the teacher was afraid of the kid. He was 5!!!!! The principle wouldn't take him out of the class and they wouldn't suspend him because "He was too young to be punished that way". I finally had enough and in order to protect my child from future bullying, I had to remove her from school and put her in a different one the following year.

 

[ultrajet]

This is my advice,

Mat 10:16 Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore, be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.

There are many bullies in school these days, and that will never change, some schools might do something about it, but most will not.

Thus, the children who were victimize by cruelty must be the one to do something for themselves, but this must not discourage the children from being righteous, but rather, it must encourage them to be wise by clinging to God for help, so to see how God works that they may grow in faith.

We can pray for God's wisdom to guide our children and for God to protect them as well. Though this may sometimes take time, for God can also use the bullies to train your children to be wise, but at the same time make righteous by faith and at the same time grace to love.

Who knows that one day, those who bully your child might become their friends because of God? :-D