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Tobiasnaceste

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Hello everyone, I would like to describe the situation I am in at the moment. I met a girl online who loves God as much as I do. We have been in contact for over a month now, every day for a few hours, and we love each other very much, we pray for each other, etc. However, we are far apart and we have not met in person yet. But before that, I would like to tell her one thing before we see each other and start dating…I am Roma and I am afraid that she would somehow judge me or leave me because of it and I don't know how to tell her..I know that I don't have to worry because it is all in God's hands and what is supposed to happen will happen and he wants the best for me. I also asked him in my prayers that if she's not the girl for me, to remove her from my life. She's still here and she's really a great girl, I just don't know how to tell her about me. I would really appreciate it if you could help me with this. I wish you a blessed day and may God bless you🙏🏽🤍
 
I do not know what Roma means so in that regard, I'm probably not the best to help out. The only thing I can say is that truth is very important when it comes to relationships. I am speaking a little from experience. My first wife had issues with telling the truth about a few things and it never went well. As you can see, she was my first wife, which means we are no longer married. She lied about her age as I found out she was four years younger when we met than she claimed and therefore a minor. That could have been a legal issue for me. She also lied about her status as I was unaware that she was engaged to be married. That almost put me into a physical altercation with her fiancé. And there's more which eventually lead up to our divorce.

Trust can only come with truth. Once that trust has been damaged, it can be extremely difficult to overcome.

Just my :twocents.
 
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I do not know what Roma means so in that regard, I'm probably not the best to help out. The only thing I can say is that truth is very important when it comes to relationships. I am speaking a little from experience. My first wife had issues with telling the truth about a few things and it never went well. As you can see, she was my first wife, which means we are no longer married. She lied about her age as I found out she was four years younger when we met than she claimed and therefore a minor. That could have been a legal issue for me. She also lied about her status as I was unaware that she was engaged to be married. That almost put me into a physical altercation with her fiancé. And there's more which eventually lead up to our divorce.

Trust can only come with truth. Once that trust has been damaged, it can be extremely difficult to overcome.

Just my :twocents.
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Roma means gypsy
 
Hi Tobi.

I'm sure you're aware of people catfishing. I think that happens a lot, unfortunately. Prepare yourself for that possibility if you've never met met her in person.

Dave
 
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Hi Tobi.

I'm sure you're aware of people catfishing. I think that happens a lot, unfortunately. Prepare yourself for that possibility if you've never met met her in person.

Dave
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She knows what I look like and I don't look like a gypsy so I doubt she knows I am.I'm just in a country where people judge and it's a bad thing, and I'm afraid she's the same as other people in my country.
 
Ok.

Sometimes they may use pictures of other people and you really won't know until you meet in person. If she doesn't show up to your first meeting in person, that may be why.

Being a little nervous is normal. I wouldn't let it paralyze you though. Only one way to find out, right?

Good luck.
 
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met a girl online who loves God as much as I do. We have been in contact for over a month now, every day for a few hours, and we love each other very much, we pray for each other, etc. However, we are far apart and we have not met in person yet. But before that, I would like to tell her one thing before we see each other and start dating…I am Roma
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How do you tell her? You ask her what is her nationality and say in response you are a Slovakian Roma.

As others have posted you should be cautious as there are people who will lead the gullible on in order to extort money from them.
If you arrange to meet don't send money for her travel costs, do meet in a public area, let your parents know where you are going and who you are meeting.

On that point yout want a working phone number and to discuss with your parents that you are meeting a non roma girl.
 
So you be talking to someone you never met before online for a month and you love each other?.

There are alot of fakers out there my brother and they professionals hustlers, or they just looking for attention and pretend to be someone they are not, they masters at what they do so just be careful and don't get too invested unless you acturully meet someone in person and you know they ligit and you have some sort of connection and acturally have a first date together, and then maybe there is a chance you could have a genuine non fake dating relationship. It could be ligit, yet im just giving some advice to be vigilant as well in these situations.

Just don't get your hopes up thats all im saying.
 
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Tobiasnaceste said:
Hello everyone, I would like to describe the situation I am in at the moment. I met a girl online who loves God as much as I do. We have been in contact for over a month now, every day for a few hours, and we love each other very much, we pray for each other, etc. However, we are far apart and we have not met in person yet. But before that, I would like to tell her one thing before we see each other and start dating…I am Roma and I am afraid that she would somehow judge me or leave me because of it and I don't know how to tell her..I know that I don't have to worry because it is all in God's hands and what is supposed to happen will happen and he wants the best for me. I also asked him in my prayers that if she's not the girl for me, to remove her from my life. She's still here and she's really a great girl, I just don't know how to tell her about me. I would really appreciate it if you could help me with this. I wish you a blessed day and may God bless you🙏🏽🤍
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Ask for her number and call her, get a taste of her real voice, learn more about her, then make an informed decision. I may sound cynical, but you gotta be vigilant these days, don't trust any stranger online, you better verify her greatness and godliness before you address her as a great and godly girl.
 
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