How we create fictional images of each other

[humble soul]

I always thought my younger brother was such a cool cute guy. I always thought he had a nice nature. I refused to see any marked faults in him.
But I kept this image of him for ages. Years and years. I didn't really allow him to evolve. To change.
And now I see that i kept this idealised version of him. he in fact has developed much confidence. He's impatient , opinionated and decisive.i don't much like the current Roger. I prefer the old Roger. But maybe that image of old Roger was mainly in my head.
Allowing others to change takes flexibility and maturity.

 

[humble soul]

This happens on here too. And of course can be negative .
I sometimes wonder about relationships that develop online. Is our online persona closer to the real person? So if a person is searching for a soulmate, and starts to really enjoy online communication with one person, is that a sign they are a good match in real life? Maybe not.
We can so easily fall in love with an idealised version of anyone.