Husband submitting to wife-is it OK?

[JesusLives890]

Hi guys. I'm a 29 year old single guy dating a 46 year old wonderful Christian lady. We've been dating for about 6 months and it's going great. We get along great-her personality is more dominant and mine is more submissive. We have talked about marriage in the future. We both are ok with her being the head of household. No I'm not weak and she's not controlling-that's just the way we both prefer it. She's more assertive than me, her income is 4 times mine(she's way up into the 6 figures), and has more experience in life than me. I know it's unbiblical, but so is getting divorced and remarried but many Christians do it. And this is not a new thing to me-I've been attracted to women in their 40s since I was about 16. But it is the first time I've actually dated a woman more than 5 years older than me.

 

[jonathanbrickman0000]

My sweet Lori and I have been happily married since 1996. She is eleven years my senior. All is well.

In general I shall recognize that Christ the Lord, encouraged women to not be in silence or in all subjection, even in teaching sessions where men were present.

 

[Hidden In Him]

Hi guys. I'm a 29 year old single guy dating a 46 year old wonderful Christian lady. We've been dating for about 6 months and it's going great. We get along great-her personality is more dominant and mine is more submissive. We have talked about marriage in the future. We both are ok with her being the head of household. No I'm not weak and she's not controlling-that's just the way we both prefer it. She's more assertive than me, her income is 4 times mine(she's way up into the 6 figures), and has more experience in life than me. I know it's unbiblical, but so is getting divorced and remarried but many Christians do it. And this is not a new thing to me-I've been attracted to women in their 40s since I was about 16. But it is the first time I've actually dated a woman more than 5 years older than me.

Greetings again, and blessings in Christ.

Well, all I can advise you here is that you should seek to at least balance things out some. I don't think a heavy imbalance is particularly healthy for any relationship because there's too much opportunity for abuse, even when not intended. If one partner is not able to challenge things when they are being grossly taken advantage of, it will inevitably lead to some form of resentment.

My personal opinion would be that the ultimate answer for a dominant woman is an even more dominant man. But that doesn't mean it couldn't work. You would just need to keep things from becoming so far out of kilter that the whole relationship stood at risk of becoming abusive if too much control caused her to become neglectful at best, utterly dismissive at worst.

Keep in mind, I am speaking from a purely non-religious point of view here. As a Christian, I abide strongly by the traditional gender roles and stereotypes.

Blessings, and wish you the best of luck.
- H

 

[Fastfredy0]

Well, as a man you should be dominant. In this role I suggest you first command is that she obey your command to dominant your relationship. Tell her you have the ultimate power of veto, but will never use it. This will show you are "in charge". (end of satire)


"Two cannot walk together unless they are agreed". If the two of you are content with the command structure, I see no problem.

 

[Hidden In Him]

This will show you are "in charge". (end of satire)

Yes. I find it fun to dream sometimes as well, LoL.

(JK, LoL).