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I feel lonely lately

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deep'n'dark

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Before I've always enjoyed being alone and making music in my home, but the past few years (I'm 32) have been a bit sad and depressive. It's like I'd like to find a connection between someone else and myself. A bigger meaning relationship.
Do you know what I mean by a special kind of connection to some girl?
 
Well young man, get out and meet some people. I noticed you're status as a non-Christian. When you say Special kind of connection with a girl, you could mean a lot of things. What does that mean for you?
 
Well young man, get out and meet some people. I noticed you're status as a non-Christian. When you say Special kind of connection with a girl, you could mean a lot of things. What does that mean for you?

Yeah, I wish summer would come faster, it's when people usually go after meeting other people. The connection I'm after, is that - she would be spiritual, I'm not officially a christian but I'm still into christian stuff a bit too. The connection is important to me in a special kind of way, to share our thoughts and develope our relationship together. :)
 
[MENTION=90554]deep'n'dark[/MENTION] I understand. The relationships we build in our lives are very important. Not only to us, but to the ones we connect with as well. However, I think, in fact I know, that we tend to miss a greater point if we see our physical relationships as a cure for our loneliness. Don't get me wrong, it's great to have friends, and even better to build a special relationship with the opposite sex; perhaps one that can grow and survive the test of time. But, to do that, there is an even better relationship that we don't have to wait for summer to begin; we can start any time.

It's a relationship that will stand for all time and eternity; A relationship that will not fail us even when we fail it; one that will always be there, one that will lift us up in the worst of times, bring us joy in the best of times, and most importantly, teach and lead us to real love. Of cores I'm speaking about our spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ; something you've no doubt heard before.

If there is one thing I have discovered, and many others have as well, is that the foundation of our spiritual relationship is the basis for all other relationships. It determines the success or failure of all of our relationships we develop with others.

The one who made you, wants and desires a relationship with you today. He loves you so much that he paid the highest price to be with you always. He wants to be the center of your life and lead you to the one He has designed and destined for you to be with in this life. If you will get to know Him first, He will lead you to her in due time. He will give you rest and assurance, peace and hope, and most of all Grace.

You know, Being alone and being lonely are two different things. One can be alone without being lonely, and one can be lonely in a crowded room. This is because loneliness is a state of mind. There can be no deeper darkness, to take from your handle, than to feel we are alone in this world, but when all we think we have is ourselves, and when we are all we know, then that's often what we are; alone. But that's just not true, that we are alone.

I met God when I was once lonely. I think that's the best time to start that relationship. I was 25, divorced, bankrupt, I lost my business, my wife, my income, and many people I thought where my friends. I owed the US IRS about $20,000, and as I sat in my house with all my things packed in boxes to move back home to my parents house; I felt so alone and helpless, and friendless. I began crying. I could not stop, and I fell to the floor and prayed for the first time. That night I meet a friend that was always there for me and I just never turned to Him until then. Changed my life; restored me in ways I never thought possible. Lead me to know what love really was, and blessed me immeasurably.

That was in 1992. I still had all those things in my life and on my heart mind you, but I was not lonely anymore and I could face them much easier.

Riches, power, sex, fame, friends ....whatever; these are not cures for loneliness. They can seem to be, and for a time they might give us a sense of fulfillment, but they do not last.

So, I hope you might consider something that does last first. That you will let God lead your heart where He'd have you be. The fact is, He has greater plans for you than you have for yourself. Jeremiah 29:11 is a verse from God to you.
 
Danus, you made many valid points. The thing is I almost never feel lonely when I'm alone - in matter of fact I used to enjoy being alone. Today I feel enlightened! When you really start being aware of things that bother you, you'll soon know what to do. I just deleted my facebook account because I find that it makes me depressed - I rather spend time here and on lot of the other sites.
Thanks Danus for your time! ;)
 
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