[__ Prayer __] I have never been a transgender man

[MarlenaTelep9]

For over six years, I thought I was transgender because I was going through a difficult period growing up. People online encouraged me to be trans on nonbinary, and my psychologist from Instagram refused to acknowledge that I might be a woman and pushed me to transition. However, now, at 22, I realize I was never transgender, just had a difficult experience. I recommend the r/detrans subreddit for understanding my situation (but NOT /rActualDetrans).

What's happening on Tumblr, Reddit, and TikTok right now terrifies me. Most people who transition aren't even 100% transgender; they're simply diagnosed too quickly, or they're entering a rebellious phase, or they're trying to make a name for themselves. Not to mention people like therians/otherkin who LITERALLY believe they have "species dysphoria" and aren't human. I feel like these teenagers have a lot of problems, but instead of solving them, they escape to world of fantasy.

 

[evenifigoalone]

I have also seen plenty of the toxic side of the trans community, and there's the whole "you don't need dysphoria to be trans" thing... GD can be very sneaky, but I do believe you need it, otherwise what's the point of transitioning? You'll create issues where there were absolutely none by messing with that stuff unnecessarily.
The biggest thing though is that the trans community IS absolutely awful to detransitoners, especially those who actually concluded that they were never trans, like yourself. (A fair amount of detransitioners, though, detransition due to pressure from society. I've talked to a few such people.)

Hoping you don't take this as an argument or an attack, it's a legitimate conversation to have.

My own experience with gender dysphoria has been that I've been encouraged to take my time and figure stuff out before doing anything with permanent results, but I don't intend to act as though my experience is universal. Especially in today's trans community. Gender dysphoria is a real thing, but the unfortunate side of greater awareness is people wanting to be trans because it feels exciting. I see the same problem in the mental health online community... as an example, people were legit faking things like DID and autism for fun, and admitted to this later on.

 

[Christ_empowered]

I dunno

I’m not super familiar with the whole thing. Scares me to be honest. I guess treatment is better than no treatment for some people but I think the suicide rates remain high so…? What is the best way forward?

But yeah…caution is advised in this situation. I’m glad you have more clarity now…