I just don't know what to do.

[Harleykid95]

Hello everyone, I am new to this site. A little background about me is about 2 years ago I finally accepted Jesus into my life. I hate to be depressing but I keep searching for an answer that i don't think I have yet found. early in my Junior year of Highschool I developed strong emotions for another. It wasn't like i thought we would be cute together or "Hey I think we should go out". I grew very concerned when she wasn't at school, I really looked forward to seeing her. About at that time I wasn't confident in my self. Through out the fall I prayed every night for the courage to ask her to a school dance. In February I finally felt good and I felt i had the confidence. One weekend I made plans to buy a pink vase with an arrangement of Purple, White, and Pink flowers. The Monday after that weekend I overheard that her say she had intercourse with a friend she knew. I became an emotional train wreck after that. I am a huge believer in purity.I felt so lost and devastated to the point that I didn't even want to function. I became very anti social. I barely even spoke to my parents and I would randomly break down and cry. Even today i am still emotionally compromised. I have spoken to some people in my local christian youth program known as Younglife. Everyone says God is telling you that she isn't for you. But if so why did I feel so much for this person? Why did I even care at all? Why can't I move on? I ask god every night for an answer. Is God trying to tell me something? I previously posted this on another site. I am desperate for an answer can anyone help?

 

[John O]

Hello everyone, I am new to this site. A little background about me is about 2 years ago I finally accepted Jesus into my life. I hate to be depressing but I keep searching for an answer that i don't think I have yet found. early in my Junior year of Highschool I developed strong emotions for another. It wasn't like i thought we would be cute together or "Hey I think we should go out". I grew very concerned when she wasn't at school, I really looked forward to seeing her. About at that time I wasn't confident in my self. Through out the fall I prayed every night for the courage to ask her to a school dance. In February I finally felt good and I felt i had the confidence. One weekend I made plans to buy a pink vase with an arrangement of Purple, White, and Pink flowers. The Monday after that weekend I overheard that her say she had intercourse with a friend she knew. I became an emotional train wreck after that. I am a huge believer in purity.I felt so lost and devastated to the point that I didn't even want to function. I became very anti social. I barely even spoke to my parents and I would randomly break down and cry. Even today i am still emotionally compromised. I have spoken to some people in my local christian youth program known as Younglife. Everyone says God is telling you that she isn't for you. But if so why did I feel so much for this person? Why did I even care at all? Why can't I move on? I ask god every night for an answer. Is God trying to tell me something? I previously posted this on another site. I am desperate for an answer can anyone help?

You have developed what we would call soul ties. These are ties that operate at the natural and emotional level In a sense your heart has knitted with them just as much as if you had entered a sexual relationship. The emotional links are one way from you to her but subconsciously you wish you could save this person/connect with this person and as a result your mind continually returns to thoughts about them and your links are re-enforced and grow stronger.

The first step is to acknowledge your feelings. Step two ask God to forgive you for taking your eyes off Him and onto this person. Thirdly begin to pray blessing and release this person to God (this is the hardest step for when you begin acting on these steps you will float between steps 1-3).

Initially you will fail often but all you need to do is when you find yourself reverting back to your previous thoughts STOP,REPENT and THANK God that you have come to your senses and FORGIVE YOURSELF for thinking that way. Then start a fresh as if it was a new day no matter if its 9.00 am or 11.59 pm.

This is not about this person and whether they are right for you (though clearly with their current lifestyle they are not on the same wave length as you) but about letting God bring peace into your life and enabling the soul ties to be cut off one by one until YOU are FREE. Leave this person to God to heal and be restored and maybe they are someone God has for you BUT they may not be and only when they have their own personal relationship with God can that be revealed.

You can not save this person but you can pray that God will save them.

I hope this is of help

John O