I feel bad for needing reassurance that God does care about me and will do something to help me in my situation. I have always wanted to do something good for the Lord and for the world. I studied medicine, got the highest marks, have always been a high achiever ( I think one thing that motivated me was my mom. She raised me as a single parent, and I saw her struggle, I felt her pain and I wanted to give back and make her proud) . Along the way, I stumbled across an evil person who was much higher ranking than me. He had a lot of influence over everyone and decided to stand in my way and cripple my progress and success for no reason other than making himself feel good. I prayed and called on God to save me from him but he did nothing. Now as a result, I’m in a place where I don’t want to be, in training that I don’t want to be in but I don’t have any other choice. I can’t support my mom and I’m embarrassed about my career outcome. I’m having trouble believing that God will help me. I’m having trouble believing that it will get better because it’s only gone from bad to worse. God didn’t show up when I needed him . I asked him for something better but he didn’t give me that. I’m starting to think that he doesn’t cate about me or my prayers. Why did he put in me a desire for a certain specialty or career if he is not letting me get that career? Does God really care? Will he do anything for me?
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It sounds as though you're still pretty early in your career - is that right? In the course of my 40-year legal career, I had numerous twists and turns. Some positions were very unpleasant, didn't match my personality or skill set, and were frankly embarrassing for someone with my academic credentials. And yet, in retrospect they were all of value.
In one of the very worst, which fortunately lasted only six months, a wise old attorney told me on the first day "Get ready - you're about to meet a segment of society you never even knew existed." Oh, yeah. Much as I hated it, I've looked back on that position and used the lessons I learned far more often than I have other, more highfalutin positions.
I actually did have one situation in which I managed to place myself on the precipice of financial and career disaster to such an extent that there seemed to be no hope. Ironically, it involved a respected "Christian" ministry that I helped expose as a fraud. In any event, at the lowest point there occurred such a miraculous series of events that I had no doubt, then or now, that the hand of God was at work. It seemed clear I was being rewarded for what I had done. You wouldn't believe everything that just "fell into place" if I told you.
In terms of reassuring you, I think only God can do that. I would say to remain in as much deep and honest prayerful communion as you can. That sounds like "Christian treacle," but there really is no other answer. You may not get immediate answers that satisfy you, but you may at least get an inner peace and confidence that there is a purpose to your present situation and that you may only see the purpose and value in retrospect. Again it sounds like "Christian treacle," but I really do think God often answers prayers in ways we don't recognize or appreciate because we think we know what is best for us and we want it RIGHT NOW. Right now isn't always God's plan or what is best for our spiritual growth and progress.
In one of the very worst, which fortunately lasted only six months, a wise old attorney told me on the first day "Get ready - you're about to meet a segment of society you never even knew existed." Oh, yeah. Much as I hated it, I've looked back on that position and used the lessons I learned far more often than I have other, more highfalutin positions.
I actually did have one situation in which I managed to place myself on the precipice of financial and career disaster to such an extent that there seemed to be no hope. Ironically, it involved a respected "Christian" ministry that I helped expose as a fraud. In any event, at the lowest point there occurred such a miraculous series of events that I had no doubt, then or now, that the hand of God was at work. It seemed clear I was being rewarded for what I had done. You wouldn't believe everything that just "fell into place" if I told you.
In terms of reassuring you, I think only God can do that. I would say to remain in as much deep and honest prayerful communion as you can. That sounds like "Christian treacle," but there really is no other answer. You may not get immediate answers that satisfy you, but you may at least get an inner peace and confidence that there is a purpose to your present situation and that you may only see the purpose and value in retrospect. Again it sounds like "Christian treacle," but I really do think God often answers prayers in ways we don't recognize or appreciate because we think we know what is best for us and we want it RIGHT NOW. Right now isn't always God's plan or what is best for our spiritual growth and progress.
I agree with your reply Runner. God knows what we need in our lives and we need to live according to God’s wishes and plans for us. He can certainly work in Mysterious Ways. We don’t always understand this as we tend to think we know what we want and what is best for us. What we ask for needs to align with His Will. It’s Thy Will not my will be done. If you pray like this you might find that everything kind of gets into a perfect order and you will have peace.
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Greetings Sunshine, and blessings in Christ to you.
If you are having trouble believing, the antidote is to spend time in the word of God, asking Him daily to teach you. Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word, which applied to your situation means that if you will give yourself to spending time with Him and letting Him teach you in a One-on-one relationship, it will strengthen your faith that He also cares about your personal matters as well and will take care of you. But He knows that He must be the center of your life or you will end up walking in fears again eventually, so He asks that you set your mind on Him and not the anxieties of the world.
Jesus said that His words are Spirit and Life, and that He has not given us a Spirit of fear but One of Power, Love and a Sound Mind. So give yourself to spending more time with Him and you will feel the Peace of God starting to fill your soul, replacing the fears you were once walking in.
God bless, and hope that helps. And thank you for sharing your concerns. There's no shame in it.
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Pretty good advise there. The only thing I can add is that it might be a time to surrender your life to Him and accept then your situation. When you’ve surrendered, dropping all expectations, you will stop expecting your own dreams to be fulfilled. You won’t understand today, but as described by others, understanding ca come later after the will is submitted.
Yesterday I happened to pick up my little copy of "Our Daily Bread," which I hadn't looked at for a few days. The devotion for June 30th was about work. Specifically, Paul's admonition in Colossians 3:23-24: "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving."
When I held corporate (in-house) legal positions, many of the employees' questions were repetitive and kind of dumb ones. It could have become very boring and frustrating. To keep my sanity, I decided to make every piece of work its own little meditation, even emails. I would focus intently and try to make the final product absolutely clear and technically perfect, even if the question itself was dumb and boring. It absolutely worked.
I had an old neighbor named BJ who was cranky and snarly, but he and I got along and I tried to help him whenever I could. When my wife Galina arrived from Belarus to join me, he was 85 and she went overboard doing things for him. One Saturday, she insisted I mow his lawn and I kind of squawked "Good grief, aren't we doing enough for BJ???" She looked at me like I was dumber than a rock and said "We aren't doing this for BJ. WE'RE DOING IT FOR GOD." It really did completely change my perspective.
If you're in the medical field, surely there is something about it that you can try to view as "for God" and try to do to the utmost of your ability, even if it isn't your dream job and the management isn't supportive?
When I held corporate (in-house) legal positions, many of the employees' questions were repetitive and kind of dumb ones. It could have become very boring and frustrating. To keep my sanity, I decided to make every piece of work its own little meditation, even emails. I would focus intently and try to make the final product absolutely clear and technically perfect, even if the question itself was dumb and boring. It absolutely worked.
I had an old neighbor named BJ who was cranky and snarly, but he and I got along and I tried to help him whenever I could. When my wife Galina arrived from Belarus to join me, he was 85 and she went overboard doing things for him. One Saturday, she insisted I mow his lawn and I kind of squawked "Good grief, aren't we doing enough for BJ???" She looked at me like I was dumber than a rock and said "We aren't doing this for BJ. WE'RE DOING IT FOR GOD." It really did completely change my perspective.
If you're in the medical field, surely there is something about it that you can try to view as "for God" and try to do to the utmost of your ability, even if it isn't your dream job and the management isn't supportive?
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Thank you everyone for your Replies, I really appreciate it. It’s just been so hard because I really did do the best even when no one was watching or knew because I was doing it for the Lord , but when I was going through a lot of mistreatment that I got diagnosed with PTSD , He didn’t do anything. Maybe there wasn’t anything that could be done. After I left that training, I wasted 3 years of my life because it’s hard to find a training position midway in my training. I prayed a lot, it seems that God wanted me to wait. Now I had to take a training in a specialty that I don’t like just so that I can work and keep a roof over my head. Maybe that’s what God wants, but it means that the years of training that I did before along with my suffering went in vain. I appreciate your advice a lot and I will read the scripture and pray more, it’s just hard for me because nothing I went through adds up.
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I will try, I also keep telling myself that maybe there is a purpose for what I’m doing now, but I keep getting scared and thinking what if I will continue to be unhappy with what I ended up doing with my career now.
Hi Sunshine,
It’s really your own choice as to whether you are happy or not. But take rest in what God says. “ I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” - Philippians 4:13.
This is a simple yet very effective verse. When you are feeling torn this gives you strength
It’s really your own choice as to whether you are happy or not. But take rest in what God says. “ I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” - Philippians 4:13.
This is a simple yet very effective verse. When you are feeling torn this gives you strength
Sounds like you reach for a big paycheck. And didnt listen to Jesus who gave all this super important teaching to live by= Matthew 6:33--Therefore, keep on seeking-FIRST- the kingdom and his( YHWH(Jehovah) righteousness and all these other things will be added( sustenance, covering, spirituality)-- So does that higher learning get in the way of doing exactly as Jesus told all to do FIRST in their lives? One can easily reason falsely within and think they are doing whats best for others, but if it interferes with obeying Jesus first, John 3:36 teaches--if one isnt obeying Jesus they remain in Gods wrath. The worlds view is to seek a better paycheck, Jesus taught to be no part of this world, especially when it interferes with obeying Jesus.
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Bad things and good things can happen to anyone and life can really stink sometimes...
We live in a world where narcissists abound! My husband and I have been to hell and back dealing with them and we still...11 years later, haven't fully financially recovered, but, we have hope that one day we will fully recover. We feel that we are finally close.
You know, I was on a trip with my family the other day. Laying in bed, and telling God, "I'm tired of this garbage. Why does it always happen to me? TO US?! Why do we have such chronic illness?! Why can't we afford a better house?! Why can't we afford a garage so people will stop tampering with our car?! Why don't I have friends?! I am tired...so tired of this..." and my husband got hit with our car the next day. I'm still ticked...I'm on fire, I'm being pushed over the edge right now. I'm certain a lot of this is the enemy trying to keep us from giving Christian advice (and prayer - a whole lot of prayer) to one of our previously Christian friends from making the good choice and returning back to God and we're struggling to hang on...maybe God believes we can handle all this stupid stuff...perhaps that's it, but I am tired - so dead tired of it all.
Sometimes the answer from God is, "No." Sometimes we're in horrible situations and sitting there like, "Why did you allow that to happen, God?" It's because we live in a fallen, broken world full of sin. There will be suffering, this world is not our home - it's not a safe, perfect haven. Garbage happens.
Jobs come and go - sometimes you need to grab a hold of an opportunity and grow with it or build on it towards a better career. If you don't want to be in it, should it's something you should walk away from? Is there something else you could secure before walking away from this job?
It might not feel like God shows up when you need him, but I will tell you this...Satan and other evils will show up to mess you up whenever they get the chance. Remember Job? How he lost nearly everything and became ill for no real reason and his wife and friends were accusing him of being a sinner and telling him to curse God? Evil will do anything to make you fall. Do keep that in mind. When Satan is losing, he always has a wild card, waiting for the right moment.
There was a missionary that wanted to go to China, a petite woman named Gladys Aylward. She felt that in her heart that God was calling her to be a missionary in China. She talked with many other people, seeing if any of them would come to China with her to do missionary work. None of them wanted to go with her. It was so heavy in her heart to go and she knew God was calling her, but going by herself wasn't the cheapest way to get over there, she didn't have any financial support or help. Travel was going to be expensive. She did work to save up the money. She went to a prestigious "missionary school", but she had difficulty learning Chinese. She was actually dismissed from this school and told she wouldn't make it. She found her opening when another woman in China needed a younger missionary to help and this was Gladys' way in, but it took years for her to get there. God was slowly moving the pieces. In the end, she led around 100 orphans across the mountain to safety after the Japanese invaded. A truly amazing story about an amazing woman. God called her and her plans seemed foiled again and again, but somehow - some way. It all worked out.
God cares, but he's not going to give us everything we want at the time we want it. His timing is different than ours. Sometimes it's a journey to get to where God wants us and He will bless us when it's within His timing.
Don't give up, the enemy is tricky.
We live in a world where narcissists abound! My husband and I have been to hell and back dealing with them and we still...11 years later, haven't fully financially recovered, but, we have hope that one day we will fully recover. We feel that we are finally close.
You know, I was on a trip with my family the other day. Laying in bed, and telling God, "I'm tired of this garbage. Why does it always happen to me? TO US?! Why do we have such chronic illness?! Why can't we afford a better house?! Why can't we afford a garage so people will stop tampering with our car?! Why don't I have friends?! I am tired...so tired of this..." and my husband got hit with our car the next day. I'm still ticked...I'm on fire, I'm being pushed over the edge right now. I'm certain a lot of this is the enemy trying to keep us from giving Christian advice (and prayer - a whole lot of prayer) to one of our previously Christian friends from making the good choice and returning back to God and we're struggling to hang on...maybe God believes we can handle all this stupid stuff...perhaps that's it, but I am tired - so dead tired of it all.
Sometimes the answer from God is, "No." Sometimes we're in horrible situations and sitting there like, "Why did you allow that to happen, God?" It's because we live in a fallen, broken world full of sin. There will be suffering, this world is not our home - it's not a safe, perfect haven. Garbage happens.
Jobs come and go - sometimes you need to grab a hold of an opportunity and grow with it or build on it towards a better career. If you don't want to be in it, should it's something you should walk away from? Is there something else you could secure before walking away from this job?
It might not feel like God shows up when you need him, but I will tell you this...Satan and other evils will show up to mess you up whenever they get the chance. Remember Job? How he lost nearly everything and became ill for no real reason and his wife and friends were accusing him of being a sinner and telling him to curse God? Evil will do anything to make you fall. Do keep that in mind. When Satan is losing, he always has a wild card, waiting for the right moment.
There was a missionary that wanted to go to China, a petite woman named Gladys Aylward. She felt that in her heart that God was calling her to be a missionary in China. She talked with many other people, seeing if any of them would come to China with her to do missionary work. None of them wanted to go with her. It was so heavy in her heart to go and she knew God was calling her, but going by herself wasn't the cheapest way to get over there, she didn't have any financial support or help. Travel was going to be expensive. She did work to save up the money. She went to a prestigious "missionary school", but she had difficulty learning Chinese. She was actually dismissed from this school and told she wouldn't make it. She found her opening when another woman in China needed a younger missionary to help and this was Gladys' way in, but it took years for her to get there. God was slowly moving the pieces. In the end, she led around 100 orphans across the mountain to safety after the Japanese invaded. A truly amazing story about an amazing woman. God called her and her plans seemed foiled again and again, but somehow - some way. It all worked out.
God cares, but he's not going to give us everything we want at the time we want it. His timing is different than ours. Sometimes it's a journey to get to where God wants us and He will bless us when it's within His timing.
Don't give up, the enemy is tricky.
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Assurance comes through experiences and going though the fires of problems which come our way. God's love comes like rain and dew. Rain and dew is irritating but edifying. Love is not a feeling, but a state of mentality.