Michelangelo
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Can I as a Christian marry an unbeliever? I found a video saying its impossible.... is it true? If yes, do you have some Bible verses for me?
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In love with an unbeliever....
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For a good marriage to work one should study 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 be ye not unequally yoked together with non-believers for what fellowship hath righteous with unrighteous, and what communion has light with darkness. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ then you need to choose a mate that also believes in the faith of Christ. In some marriages people do not enter into a relationship with Christ being the center of it, but maybe one of them come to know the Lord and the other one refuses to have that personal relationship with Christ then we go back to what 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 says. If the unbelieving partner leaves the believing partner then this frees the believing partner from the bondage of the vows of marriage and they are free to marry again.
Before ever getting married take time to really know each other and establish a friendship that consist of trust and belief in each other. Allow Christ to be the center of your friendship and this will allow you to begin a marriage that is totally Christ centered. Always resolve your problems with the Holy Ghost guidance through the word and you will always have a good marriage. Always be opened and honest with each other for this builds trust in the relationship, but if that trust is broken there is no relationship. Love each other unconditionally as Christ loves us and forgives us our faults. As long as we live in this flesh we will sin at times, but when you acknowledge those sins and ask for forgiveness God will always forgive us. Always be ready to forgive each other seventy times seven, Matthew 22:21,22, and not only forgive, but forget the sin as God remembers our sins no more when we repent of them. The outside appearance will always change and beauty may fade, but it is the heart of the person we are to love and the heart will never change as long as the love of Christ dwells within it.
Pretty good little message, if you ask me.
Greetings, Michaelangelo. In answer to your question, it's not impossible, it's just very ill-advised. If you merely want scripture for it, the primary text is in 2 Corinthians 6. If you want personal advice, that would likely go into more detail.
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, “I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.”
As is written in the Scripture it is not ideal for a Christian to marry an unbeliever. However, if the couple is already married and one of them becomes a Christian, the Bible states they should stay married and not separate.
"To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. . ." (1 Corinthians 7:12-14).
It is entirely possible for the believing spouse to share the gospel with their unbelieving partner and eventually lead them to Christ. But the odds of that happening is pretty slim. . . and the chance of that unbelieving spouse remaining stubborn for the rest of their married life is always 50/50. That's a big gamble. The thing is, marriage is already challenging without the need for the couple to have conflicting core values divide them. Why make things even more difficult for oneself by choosing a life partner who cannot, will not, participate in the fundamental worship of God that a true Christian desires?
Of course, everyone's journey to being closer to God may be different and I'm not in a position to judge. If you have already fallen in love with an unbeliever and you cannot imagine being without them, seek God's wisdom and grace. In choosing to marry an unbeliever you may experience specific challenges that you might not ever encounter if you were to marry a Christian instead.
"To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. . ." (1 Corinthians 7:12-14).
It is entirely possible for the believing spouse to share the gospel with their unbelieving partner and eventually lead them to Christ. But the odds of that happening is pretty slim. . . and the chance of that unbelieving spouse remaining stubborn for the rest of their married life is always 50/50. That's a big gamble. The thing is, marriage is already challenging without the need for the couple to have conflicting core values divide them. Why make things even more difficult for oneself by choosing a life partner who cannot, will not, participate in the fundamental worship of God that a true Christian desires?
Of course, everyone's journey to being closer to God may be different and I'm not in a position to judge. If you have already fallen in love with an unbeliever and you cannot imagine being without them, seek God's wisdom and grace. In choosing to marry an unbeliever you may experience specific challenges that you might not ever encounter if you were to marry a Christian instead.
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"Can" as in Is it possible? Of course. I know many couples that got married as believer and unbeliever.
Not impossible, just spoken against in scripture.
In 1 Tim 5, we read that a widow is free to marry "in the Lord." Good advice for everyone; not just widows.
2 Cor 6 tells us to not get "unequally yoked together with unbelievers." While that may include many different types of relationships like business partnerships, it most certainly applies to getting married.
If you are in love with a non believer (or pre-believer) I feel for you. But if she is unwilling to come to the Lord, then I suggest you break it off.
The heartache of the breakup will be less than the ongoing heartbreak of being a house divided against itself.
Corinthians chapter 7, paul advises Christian people not to marry outsiders. Second Corinthians chapter 6, better document to not be yoked with unbelievers. A Christian will be in position to compromise their values and beliefs with outsider. That's bad news. The Christian can be pulled away from sound doctrine into traditions of men. Get the picture. Myself, I would never put myself in position to compromise my values and beliefs. My advice is. Dont date or get involved with outsider. If person must marry. Find out what thier beliefs are. Are they biblically illiterate or have working knowledge of Gods word. Would you be compadable??.