I appreciate your sympathy. I really do.
We had an understanding that we would not have relationships with the opposite sex on line. But she told me that two weeks ago she decided that since we didn't have a relationship anymore that she could go ahead and email men she was corresponding with on her FB wall. Well, it didn't take long for that to be a source of inappropriate correspondence, did it? It's almost funny how soon that happened.
The bottom line was, with the revelation of her having secret correspondence on FB I knew there was no way I could stay in the marriage and quietly endure her abandonment while she gets deeper and deeper in trouble on line. I had to confront her. I was enduring things mostly for the sake of our Down's Syndrome son who is now 18, and I really did hope she would come around some day and things could change. But I see there is no way I can do that any longer with her having made a decision that she is free to correspond in secret with men on line, no matter how much she claims she would not fall into a relationship that way. It was time to draw the line. And I asked her what she wanted to do. She said her deeply held grudges against me were beyond repair and that there was no hope.