In need of advice

[IchooseHope]

Hi,

Nice to meet you all, I need some serious advice.

I’ve been friends with someone for almost 6 years; she is a coworker of mine. Well I admit that we never that close before, just a casual friends, but Last September, I got in the same work project with her and we got to spent more time together. And I think I fall in love with her. Last month, I took a gamble to tell her how I feel. But the result is not what I was hoping for. She mention that she’s not single but I’m pretty sure that she is not seeing someone right now. I want to believe that she lie just to not complicated things between us. so even after that I still try to win her heart. But she just rejects my every attempt to get close to her.

Well truthfully my heart is broken. It’s been almost a month and it still hurts every time I see her. Not that I’m mad at her, it’s just that I’m sad that I can’t be part of her life. I can’t talk to her as I usually do anymore. This last week I tried to avoid her as much as I can. But it’s really really hard. It’s starting to affect my work as I can’t concentrate in the office. I even have to admit that I began to jealous if I saw her laughing with my other co worker. And to make thing worse I've got to see her every day.

I've been praying day and night to ask God for guidance. I also speak with my friends. But now I’m really confuse. Should I keep fighting or should I just try to move on, some said to keep fighting to win her heart; some said to just move on. Deep in my heart I know that I still hope that thing can be different.

I really need advice now. I want to leave everything to God, as I believe He know what is the best for us. But I always believe that men do what he/she can do and God will decide the outcome, because honestly I can’t believe if I do nothing and someday she will suddenly have a change of heart. So I’m really lost and confuse right now. and I can use any advice I can get.

Sorry if it’s confusing as English is not my native language

thanks

 

[Blazin Bones]

Welcome to the forums, IChooseHope.

To briefly address you situation, have you considered just waiting to see what happens for a bit? God's word tells us that some times we have to wait on the Lord before we will see his plan. I am sorry that this situation is painful, but the christian life has it's growing pains as well. Keep praying and I would encourage you to find some local Christians who you can ask to pray with as well. many of us on the site would be glad to pray for you as well.

 

[IchooseHope]

Hi Blazin Bones,

thank you and nice to meet you.

yes, i guess I've been impatient regarding this whole matter. and it's funny i just found and read a nice article today related with waiting and let me share parts of it

"Who likes to wait? I’ve never heard anyone say, “I love to wait.” Have you? Waiting at times can drive me crazy. I don’t like to wait in lines, wait in traffic, wait for my food to cook, or wait to purchase things. But waiting is a necessary part of life. We’re an instant society and we’ve grown to expect things when we want them.

But God says to wait on Him. “Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD” Psalm 27:14.

Will you continue to feel lousy or will you put your trust in God? Hang on to the truths from God’s Word, not the lies from the evil one. Lies that tell you you’ll always be single. Lies that whisper in your ear and in your heart that you cannot be happy without a mate. Lies that haunt you and tell you that your life is hopeless because you’re single. What kind of life is that anyway? Lies. Lies. Lies...

The true and living God gives us reason for getting out of bed. His refining process can be very painful. He uses trials so that we will put our trust and our hope in Him alone, not in someone else. I urge you to choose to be better not bitter.

Hang on to these words

Reading your response and the article really makes me feels better. I have to thank God for this Reminder.
so thanks. i know it's going to be very hard but i guess i know what i should do now :D

 

[evesforeva]

If you told her how you feel then she knows how you feel. Repeating that to her is an insult to her intelligence. Remember that old adage, "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, it was meant to be." If she changes her mind, she'll let you know without prompting. Badgering her is just annoying.

 

[IchooseHope]

evesforeva,

thanks. that's a sound advice, i also think that's the best action.
even now, nothing changes between us. can't say that i like this condition but i believe it's a man job to respect women's decisions. so i guess i just continue with the Praying and Waiting.

 

[evesforeva]

i believe it's a man job to respect women's decisions.

You're absolutely right! Good insight

 

[vocalyocal]

Hi,

Nice to meet you all, I need some serious advice.

I’ve been friends with someone for almost 6 years; she is a coworker of mine. Well I admit that we never that close before, just a casual friends, but Last September, I got in the same work project with her and we got to spent more time together. And I think I fall in love with her. Last month, I took a gamble to tell her how I feel. But the result is not what I was hoping for. She mention that she’s not single but I’m pretty sure that she is not seeing someone right now. I want to believe that she lie just to not complicated things between us. so even after that I still try to win her heart. But she just rejects my every attempt to get close to her.

Well truthfully my heart is broken. It’s been almost a month and it still hurts every time I see her. Not that I’m mad at her, it’s just that I’m sad that I can’t be part of her life. I can’t talk to her as I usually do anymore. This last week I tried to avoid her as much as I can. But it’s really really hard. It’s starting to affect my work as I can’t concentrate in the office. I even have to admit that I began to jealous if I saw her laughing with my other co worker. And to make thing worse I've got to see her every day.

I've been praying day and night to ask God for guidance. I also speak with my friends. But now I’m really confuse. Should I keep fighting or should I just try to move on, some said to keep fighting to win her heart; some said to just move on. Deep in my heart I know that I still hope that thing can be different.

I really need advice now. I want to leave everything to God, as I believe He know what is the best for us. But I always believe that men do what he/she can do and God will decide the outcome, because honestly I can’t believe if I do nothing and someday she will suddenly have a change of heart. So I’m really lost and confuse right now. and I can use any advice I can get.

Sorry if it’s confusing as English is not my native language

thanks

I would have wished to tell you to wait before telling her how you feel, until you were postive she felt the same way, now your in a very bad place, and I feel for you, just move on would be the best advice........and remember this! when God's choice for a mate for you happens, you won't even remember this girl thats breaking your heart today!