Is it time for divorce?

[Angelman7]

I would recommend praying and fasting first. Not for guidence on a devorce but deliverence for your husband because he is bound by a demonic force that is very powerful and is controlling him and clouding his judgment all at the same time. Jesus said divorce is only for maritial unfaithfulness. I don't know the boundaries on that whether it is physically cheating on your spouse with another person or just pronography, but there is a fine line there. I would pray, start fasting, and seek Gods face diligently like you never have before. I have been praying more lately and the lord told me he wants his children to seek his face, not his hand, or blessings but his face. my response to that was "noone can look at your face and live". I felt the Lord reply "that is what I want" I have learned that when I do this, when I seek Gods face and read his word daily and fast from time to time looking for him that is when God starts to bless me and things start happening. God wants to heal your marriage and you are going to have to do your part to save it. You may have to war in the spirit to save it and it may not be easy but desperatly try to live in Gods word. One thing that came to me, I don't know how often he is on the porn sites, but when he is doing that, you need to be praying and seeking God. its not going to be easy but it will be worth it and could turn for a testimony. I believe you may have moved because God had his hand in it and postponed it. But fast, pray, read, and seek God's face and he will show himself faithful to you.

 

[paisley]

I wouldn`t divorce him but I certainly wouldn`t feed his laziness. If he wants to eat, he needs to work for it. He`s just freeloading off you and that needs to end. He is a man. Men should protect and provide for the woman especially when she is pregnant. You might need to separate which hopefully would force him to get a job and it would also protect your child from accidentally falling into porn. I would not go back to him until he kept his job for a significant amount of time and willingly provided for you with no complaints. I wouldn`t demand anything or ask for anything. I would just leave, pray for him, and watch how things unfold.
You said he has a phone computer. Who pays for that? He wanted to take you out to eat? Who paid for that? He wanted to change the toilet seat? Who paid for that? You are the only one working so I can only conclude you paid. Stop enabling him. Cut off his telephone. Cut off his computer. Don`t take him to a restaurant. He should take you to a restaurant. If no one is paying his bills and feeding him, he`ll have no choice but to get up and get a job. Then he will not have the time to be looking at porn all day. Regain your dignity and respect through tough love. Let him sink in his own laziness.

 

[glorydaz]

Yeah sometimes staying to together can get people killed, it is not always best to stay with each other. What about the women that get their butts kicked everyday, is it good for them to stay with their husband's ? No it is not. This guy is abusing her, he just hasn't hit her yet, or hasn't he ? And sometimes you can pray all you want and nothing will change, about certain things, it could be because God did not bless the union in the first place. Yes you are to do everything to make your marriage work, but sometimes it is not to be. And sometimes a separation will do the trick, and sometimes it will not. And if God wants to, He can heal the marriage, that is if He wants to.

I agree...a separation could well be in order. As it is, the husband is being enabled, and that's the last thing he needs. Why should he get up and do anything if someone's willing to do it for him? My daughter was in a very similar situation, and eventually her husband moved back in...with a job and a changed attitude.