its easy to forgive others. but can you forgive yourself?

[holy999]

can you

 

[WalterandDebbie]

can you

Yes,
According to Verywell Mind, there are several steps you can take to forgive yourself 1:

• Understand your emotions
• Accept responsibility for what happened
• Treat yourself with kindness and compassion
• Express remorse for your mistakes
• Make amends and apologize (including apologizing to yourself)
• Look for ways to learn from the experience
• Focus on making better choices in the future

It’s important to remember that forgiving yourself is a process an

 

[holy999]

if your handicapped its not your faulth. find peace.

 

[Vinny37]

can you

Yes, theoretically.

On loving/liking, C S Lewis said that while we’re not called to like anyone, we are called to love everyone. What helped him was realising that it’s “love others as you love yourself.” He saw that he didn’t always like himself, but always had a desire for his wellbeing. Ie, the command to love others is to desire their wellbeing, a desire which can lead to positive help.

Somewhat akin, the issue of forgiveness. But as Lewis pointed out elsewhere, forgiveness is an opposite of excusing/‌excusability. What is excusable needs no forgiveness. It helps to see that God excuses us as much as possible, and forgives us in Christ, the inexcusable. In practice, I think that sometimes we ‘forgive’ real sinfulness towards us, and perhaps—prudence might wisely dictate otherwise—will give also the other person another chance. As for forgiving ourselves, it can be harder, even after making all allowance for ‌excusability—though sometimes someone might be more excusable than we give them credit for.

Some relational blunders can pose continuing lament—Lewis spoke of men who have sexually seduced women, repenting when the damage has been done: he was in that camp. Interestingly, Jesus spoke within a framework of Sinai, about prioritising an offended party seemingly over devotion to God (Mt.5:24). That was revolutionary, but worked around the idea that seeking good harmony with co-devotees, was what offerings symbolised, seeking good harmony with God who was over both—shalom was the heart of the covenant. In Christian framework, one could suggest that at times skipping church (without making it a habit) to restore a Christian relationship, can please God our father.

Self-condemnation can please the devil, and might have its moments, but if we have repented towards God, and attempted restitution towards others if appropriate, sometimes we must just draw a line in the sand, and move on, focusing on God’s love for us in spite of our weaknesses, forgiving our own self as our father has done.

 

[Riven]

I try.

 

[D-D-W]

In the bible, forgiveness is described in terms of a financial debt which is being written off. What you owed someone before is no longer owed.

Which led me to the conclusion that self-forgiveness is an oxymoron. How do you pay off yourself or even owe yourself anything? You can't.

So to me - what is called "forgiving yourself" is actually just accepting God's forgiveness and believing it applies fully to ME.