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Merry Menagerie
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My husband left me for another woman.
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Merry, I cannot even begin to express my sorrow for your situation. I watched my mother deal with my father's unfaithfulness and the damage it did and decided that I would NEVER cross that line. My prayers are with you and even though it does not change anything, please remember that there is a Bridegroom who will always love you.Merry Menagerie said:
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Windozer
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Merry...My heart goes out to you...you poor thing.
While there is probably some rough times ahead of you while you adjust to this. I want to let you know there will be joy and happiness in your heart again.
My marriage came apart twenty years ago now and I want to let you know that for many many years now I would not want to have it back.
I would not trade it for what I now have. And I am single and plan on keeping like that.
My hope for you is for that to come true for you also.
While there is probably some rough times ahead of you while you adjust to this. I want to let you know there will be joy and happiness in your heart again.
My marriage came apart twenty years ago now and I want to let you know that for many many years now I would not want to have it back.
I would not trade it for what I now have. And I am single and plan on keeping like that.
My hope for you is for that to come true for you also.
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Merry Menagerie
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Thank you all for your thoughts.
Please pray that I can somehow move forward from all this. I have been praying that God stops me from loving him so that I can't hurt anymore....Do you think that's a good idea?
Please pray that I can somehow move forward from all this. I have been praying that God stops me from loving him so that I can't hurt anymore....Do you think that's a good idea?
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Solo
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Continue to look toward God. Pray for your relationship with Jesus Christ to continue to grow leaps and bounds, continue reading the Word of God in your relationship with him, and he will speak to your heart. Continue in the joy of your salvation seeking to serve Jesus Christ alone at this time. When you are at the point where you see bitterness setting in, forgive your husband and pray for him.
The sorrows that you endure today will turn into unspeakable riches in the eternal.
May the peace and grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you each and evey moment of every day.
Michael
The sorrows that you endure today will turn into unspeakable riches in the eternal.
May the peace and grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with you each and evey moment of every day.
Michael
Merry Menagerie said:
Merry,
I went through divorce and I went through the death of a fiance. The pain is no different and don't let anyone tell you it is. Pain is pain no matter what circumstances surround it. From the depths of my heart, you have my deepest sympathies. Regardless of how tough this path is, you need your "friends" now. Find some support group to help you through.
You will go through all the phases a person who has lost a person to death goes through. You will not stop loving a person you were married to, but you will have many feelings well up in you. You will at one stage in the process be so angry that you will feel hate because of what he did. Direct that hate in the right direction. Direct it at the behavior, not at the person. All you can do is to forgive him, he knows not what he did.
Now is the time you will discover a new you whether you want it or not, this is a process of growth. Trust God in the whole process, and let the grieving process happen in all it's stages. Else you will just end up carrying un-needed baggage.
Get some good Christian counseling to help you understand what emotions will try to invade so that you can be one step ahead of it and be IN control instead of out of control of it. Don't delay with that. That doesn't mean you can't express how you are feeling. But you will be better able to direct your feelings in the proper places. Ask the Lord Jesus teach you appropriate prayer in this time of your life.
You will get through this trial in your life. Give God the time needed to help you overcome this. In due time.
Bless you Merry
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Merry Menagerie
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Thanks for the encouragement.
Well I've been on a downward spiral and I hit rock bottom yesterday. Relic I wish I would have read your post sooner because I did get angry like you said - and I hit into my husband. I just hit him and hit him for all the pain that I felt and I did...I felt like I hated him. I wanted to punish him so bad!
It wasn't good at all. I've since had to apologise to him though and I have done that.
But today, however, I met up with a lady at the local church who is the leader of a separation/divorce support group. She helped me see a lot of things and make a few decisions as to where I'm heading with my life. I'm even going to get plugged into God again and find out who I really am. I need to heal and she's offered a support network to help me through that. I can't believe how much help has been offered.
So thanks again for your thoughts and prayers. If anyone has any helpful scriptures and proffessions that I can use that would be great too. I'll keep you all updated as to how I'm getting on. I think I've hit the lowest I can go so the only way is up now.
Well I've been on a downward spiral and I hit rock bottom yesterday. Relic I wish I would have read your post sooner because I did get angry like you said - and I hit into my husband. I just hit him and hit him for all the pain that I felt and I did...I felt like I hated him. I wanted to punish him so bad!
It wasn't good at all. I've since had to apologise to him though and I have done that.
But today, however, I met up with a lady at the local church who is the leader of a separation/divorce support group. She helped me see a lot of things and make a few decisions as to where I'm heading with my life. I'm even going to get plugged into God again and find out who I really am. I need to heal and she's offered a support network to help me through that. I can't believe how much help has been offered.
So thanks again for your thoughts and prayers. If anyone has any helpful scriptures and proffessions that I can use that would be great too. I'll keep you all updated as to how I'm getting on. I think I've hit the lowest I can go so the only way is up now.
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Windozer
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Merry Menagerie said:
No I don't. If you stop loving him then what? I suspect that what you are feeling has nothing to do with loving him, but that you are hurting due to what you now see as your lost dreams.
My advice is that you ask God to help you forgive him. You might just find out that to be in Gods and your best interest. But that won't happen unless you are able to love him.
stovebolts
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Merry,
My heart goes out to you.
Relic, I believe you are spot on.
Merry,
When Jeremiah was watching the destruction of Jeruselum (it was horrifying, read Lamentations), he was also tormented... Why? Because it was his love and he knew that it was God's choosen city.
I hope that you find comfort. God will not forsake you. What you had with your husband, can never be taken away. Cherish the moments that are worth charishing when the time is appropriate.
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Lamentations 3:18-32 And I said, My strength and my hope has perished from the LORD: Remembering my affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the gall. My soul has them still in remembrance, and is humbled in me. This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the LORD'S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is your faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, says my soul; therefore will I hope in him. The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeks him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD. It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth. He sits alone and keeps silence, because he has borne it upon him. He puts his mouth in the dust; if so be there may be hope. He gives his cheek to him that strikes him: he is filled full with reproach. For the Lord will not cast off forever: But though he cause grief, yet will he have compassion according to the multitude of his mercies.
My heart goes out to you.
Relic, I believe you are spot on.
Merry,
When Jeremiah was watching the destruction of Jeruselum (it was horrifying, read Lamentations), he was also tormented... Why? Because it was his love and he knew that it was God's choosen city.
I hope that you find comfort. God will not forsake you. What you had with your husband, can never be taken away. Cherish the moments that are worth charishing when the time is appropriate.
NKJV
Lamentations 3:18-32 And I said, My strength and my hope has perished from the LORD: Remembering my affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the gall. My soul has them still in remembrance, and is humbled in me. This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the LORD'S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not. They are new every morning: great is your faithfulness. The LORD is my portion, says my soul; therefore will I hope in him. The LORD is good unto them that wait for him, to the soul that seeks him. It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD. It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth. He sits alone and keeps silence, because he has borne it upon him. He puts his mouth in the dust; if so be there may be hope. He gives his cheek to him that strikes him: he is filled full with reproach. For the Lord will not cast off forever: But though he cause grief, yet will he have compassion according to the multitude of his mercies.