To be honest I do not have the answer myself. But just to contribute something i will put in a "battlelines" on loneliness from my revolution bible in just in case it may help.
Profile: J.C.
Where Is Everybody? [Loneliness]
Q: How about that game Friday night?
Could you believe our defense?
A: I didn't go.
Q: You didn't go? Are you nuts?
it was the state play-off! Why did you stay home?
A: Because I don't like sitting by myself.
Q: Why would you have to sit by yourself?
The whole school was there.
A: Yeah, but none of them are my friends.
Q: Get out of town! You have tons of
friends!
A: No. I have lots of people
around me. Most of
them don't have a clue about who I am. Like,
how many know what J.C stands for?
Q: Well how would anybody know? That's
what you go by. OK, OK, let me guess.
Jesus Christ? Julius Caesar?
A: Come on, man, I'm being serious.
Q: What about hunter? I see you with him
a lot.
A: Hunter and I hang out because we have the
same class schedule. Big deal. He has plenty of
friends. and I'm not one of them. Just because
you see us together at school doesn't mean
we're friends.
Q: What do you mean by "friend"? What
are you looking for?
A: Someone who knows me. Someone I can talk
to. Someone who
listens to me. Someone who
comes into a room full of people and looks for
me in the crowd. Someone who thinks to actually
call me once in a while-or drop by my house.
Q: Wow. I never knew. I'm sorry, man.
A: Yeah, well, you and me both. I've tried
everything-you know, 'To have a friend, you
have to be a friend." I call people. I make the
effort. But nothing works. People have their
own little groups. Just like when we were kids:
"Tick tock, the game is locked; no one else can
play." That's me-on the outside looking in.
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>> Friends Are Friends Forever
Ouch. What can you say? J.C's situation stinks. We can talk all day long about Jesus being our friend (see John 15:13-17)-it's a great truth-but still, life can get lonely. Can you relate?
So where's God in our loneliness? Does he even notice when we feel all along? Does he care if we have meaningful friendships? Absolutely! Remember, it was God who saw Adam all by himself, said, "That's not good!" and then made Eve to be hid companion (see Genesis 2:18)
What's more, the Bible tells us, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pith the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm along? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of these strands is not quickly broken" (Ecclesiates 4:9-12)
Everybody needs friends. God knows that. He made us for relationships. So don't give up; keep sticking your neck out there. You won't become best buds with everyone, and you can't build solid friendships overnight. But you will eventually find a guy or two you really hit it off with. It's like everything else: The more faithfully and regularly you invest, the greature the eventual payoff will be.
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Phew, I typed it word for word from my Revolution bible. The bible is for guys but hopefully it still works here if it even helps at all.. Thought i would just add my
