Destructus86
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For a while now i've found making Christian friends at church to be extremely difficult. (I've been to a few churches) I go to the small groups, try to talk to people. But it usuall just ends up being small talk and never going anywhere. Yet I could easily make a non-christian friend.
What i've found is that while my non Christian friends were open to being friends with me right away with Christians they seem to form an internal judgement about me right from the start which creates an emotional/mental wall before they even get to know me. Judgement seems to be a common thing amongst us Christians...if a person isn't dressed like they are from GQ or wear a sweatervest then they become hesitant to know that person.
I realize this is a generalization...but most generalizations come from a partial truth. And the fact that I encounter this vastly more often with Christians than I do non-christians is disturbing to me.
In my current small group the people are nice enough, but we just don't click. Aside from studying God in bible studies we don't have much to talk about with each other. (the age difference doesn't help) They are nice enough people, but they are just a little hestitant to know me. That hesitation is extremely common...yet I rarely find it in non-christians.
I find it sad and disturbing that the people who are called to live in love like Christ seem to be the hardest people to talk to and open up with. Almost like...a christian clique...
Anyone else feel the same?
What i've found is that while my non Christian friends were open to being friends with me right away with Christians they seem to form an internal judgement about me right from the start which creates an emotional/mental wall before they even get to know me. Judgement seems to be a common thing amongst us Christians...if a person isn't dressed like they are from GQ or wear a sweatervest then they become hesitant to know that person.
I realize this is a generalization...but most generalizations come from a partial truth. And the fact that I encounter this vastly more often with Christians than I do non-christians is disturbing to me.
In my current small group the people are nice enough, but we just don't click. Aside from studying God in bible studies we don't have much to talk about with each other. (the age difference doesn't help) They are nice enough people, but they are just a little hestitant to know me. That hesitation is extremely common...yet I rarely find it in non-christians.
I find it sad and disturbing that the people who are called to live in love like Christ seem to be the hardest people to talk to and open up with. Almost like...a christian clique...
Anyone else feel the same?