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making sense of life?

Jesusfreak97

Jesusfreak97

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So I have been extremly lonely lately and I feel stuck. People tell me "get in to a group" (ugh if I had a penny for every time I heard that I would be VERY rich). Well I have tried getting in to groups but thanks to....I don't know....cliques, people, lack of confidence, lack of social graces, or maybe I am just that unlikeable but because of something I just CAN'T make friends. So GETTING INVOLVED IN GROUPS OR CLUBS OR WHATEVER DOESN'T WORK! I ALWAYS end up sitting on the sidelines by myself watching everyone else have fun and that just plain sucks. Have I made an effort? YES! I have gone up to people and talked to them and I have hung out with them but we always lose contact....I don't know what's wrong with me....

Honestly I have gotten used to not having frinends. I have gotten comfortable with the fact and kind of accepted it. Still hurts though.... what do I do? It is clear that I am not getting any friends any time soon so what do I do? And telling me to wait till college? Please. If I couldn't make friends for the past 17 years of my life why would college be any different? I want some new answers. I'm tired of all these ansewers I have been getting that don't tell me anything. I guess I want to know why is this happening and what can I do NOW to cope with this while accepting the fact that making friends for me IS NOT EASY! Please help...
 
Only thing I can really think of is to ask God to give you one. Hopefully others will have more suggestions.

Well, another thought: maybe try an online friend? Now I know this has it's drawbacks as you can't trust everybody online and have to be careful, but for the past several years some of my best and closest friends have been online friends.
I didn't have many IRL friends until I began going to the Bible study and remet some people that I had first met elsewhere. (I'm a lot more shy than I used to be, so they were the ones who came to me first and began talking.)
 
Define "online friendship" do you mean like this forum? cuz the people on this forum I do consider my friends but it does get lonely not having people to hang out with on the weekends and stuff...and I want someone who I can call and actually talk to. This forum is great, don't get me wrong but there are some things that someone I actually know can do that this forum can't....so what exactly do you mean by "online friendship"?
 
It's rather hard to define, but, you're right, it is more than just conversing on a forum.
Like the friends of mine that I consider my online friends, are people who I have a friendship relationship with that developed over time, for different reasons. Like maybe I had a problem and they helped me somehow and developed some sort of bond from there, or we just began talking and found we had a lot in common.
 
That happens. =/ I've grown apart from a lot of my past friends, it seems. Some friendships aren't going to last. I've known plenty that started out awesome, but we ended up going separate ways.


I remember several years ago, when it seemed like my only friend was my dog. I didn't even have school friends because I was being homeschooled, and I didn't (and still don't) know anyone in the neighborhood we lived in. I had friends at the homeschool group meetings, but didn't get to see them very often.

But now, in the past couple of years I have been absolutely amazed at the friends God has given me. They've shown me that they care about me, even when I don't deserve it, and that is a true friend. It's just...friends like that are hard to find. I didn't go seeking out these people, they just came into my life.

I hope you don't take this wrong. I'm mentioning because...maybe you just need to give it time, let God move.


I can't claim to know everything about this, so I hope others will have more helpful advice.
If you want, I'm willing to be friends.
 
Wow, that is amazing....I was just on my way over here thinking about making this exact same thread...Even the part about "joining groups".

But yeah, I'm in the same boat as you - 16, no friends outside of the internet, and it's really....annoying that way, for lack of a better term. I was just so happening to be reading another thread by another person on a gaming site I go to, and everyone was saying "join a group or club".

Now I'm wondering...WHAT GROUP? What kind of group? Maybe there are just no groups or clubs in my local area, because I have no idea what kind of club people are talking about...

Now, I don't get out much(Live out in the middle of nowhere, and can't drive), but there is a small store 3 miles away that I walk to very often - But never have the guts to talk to anyone besides the lady behind the counter :P Plus I have no idea how to start a conversation...
 
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