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YosefHayim

YosefHayim

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I worry that I'll never have a girlfriend, or a wife. And I can barely socialize with my own family. I wanna move out and completely cut myself off from my family because life is going nowhere. I have no thoughts. What's the point?
 
YosefHayim said:
I worry that I'll never have a girlfriend, or a wife. And I can barely socialize with my own family. I wanna move out and completely cut myself off from my family because life is going nowhere. I have no thoughts. What's the point?
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Don't take it out on your family. Just find something to do with your life.

God, show Yosef what you have gifted him to do and then give him lots of opportunities to do it.
 
YosefHayim said:
Take it out on them? I'd probably being doing them a favour.
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Maybe so, but the point is don't leave out of some kind of retaliation. Just move on.

Don't burn the bridge. Things change a lot when you get out and on your own two feet. But if you alienate them now you will have no opportunity to have any relationship with them later after you find out things get better with family when you become self sufficient and you better understand the stresses of running a household and family. In fact, what will probably change the most is not them, but your attitude about them. Life has a way of doing that.
 
Jethro Bodine said:
Maybe so, but the point is don't leave out of some kind of retaliation. Just move on.

Don't burn the bridge. Things change a lot when you get out and on your own two feet. But if you alienate them now you will have no opportunity to have any relationship with them later after you find out things get better with family when you become self sufficient and you better understand the stresses of running a household and family. In fact, what will probably change the most is not them, but your attitude about them. Life has a way of doing that.
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There is no relationship. I'm just there. So there would be no bridges to burn. There only difference is I'd just be somewhere else.
 
I do not assume so I ask, do you believe in God? If you do, know that He loves you and has a plan for each of our lives. Growing up and allowing God to lead our life can be very difficult and even painful. I assure you God has a plan for you and cares for you. Of course everything is always easier said than done. Just know you have spiritual brothers and sisters that love you and are praying for your well being.
Dear God we thank you for life. We thank you for the lessons we learn in life. Help us understand Your Will for our life. Comfort our friend and show him the way. All things we ask in Jesus name, Amen.
 
What I'd like to see for you is you fill your life up with God's things according to how he has gifted you. That will be the answer for your discontentment with life. Older folks will tell you that life's usual goals--jobs, homes, cars, etc.--fulfill an immediate need but eventually show themselves to be pretty empty goals because they fizzle out in time. To find life you have to lose your life. The only thing that will truly satisfy is God's business.
 
Jethro Bodine said:
What I'd like to see for you is you fill your life up with God's things according to how he has gifted you. That will be the answer for your discontentment with life. Older folks will tell you that life's usual goals--jobs, homes, cars, etc.--fulfill an immediate need but eventually show themselves to be pretty empty goals because they fizzle out in time. To find life you have to lose your life. The only thing that will truly satisfy is God's business.
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That's what I pray for. And nothing happens. I don't care about the American Babylonian dream. Screw the BS rat race. I don't want money. More money is more illusion. I don't want objects. I have no warmth, as scripture says: "woe to him who lies alone".
 
Sometimes the lesson God is teaching us is to be satisfied with and thankful for the things He has already given us before He will give up more. Do you live in a house, apartment, or some other kind of structure? Do you have running water in a tap that is safe to drink? A bed that you sleep in that is protected from cold, rain, snow? Food to eat every day? If you have any of these you are exceedingly blessed and very rich in the eyes of a huge part of the world's population. It's one thing to just say you thank God for all He has given you, as so many people say all the time. It's another thing altogether to really feel that way and really mean it. Most people have a hard time learning to be truly thankful in their hearts for what God has already given them.
 
I know you're concerned about your life, YosefHayim . But remember: our Lord God loves you tremendously. Continue to read/study Scripture.

And you just might want to consider taking a class in public speaking or joining a local theater group. These are ways to develop your self-confidence. They also provide a topic for conversation that you can discuss initially with your family and progress from there.

You might also consider taking a class in speech at the nearby community college. A class like this will require speeches, as well as joint projects with classmates.

Do you have a job that would support living on your own, with all the inherent expenses?

Moving out won't solve anything. In fact, moving out would isolate you.
 
Obadiah said:
Sometimes the lesson God is teaching us is to be satisfied with and thankful for the things He has already given us before He will give up more. Do you live in a house, apartment, or some other kind of structure? Do you have running water in a tap that is safe to drink? A bed that you sleep in that is protected from cold, rain, snow? Food to eat every day? If you have any of these you are exceedingly blessed and very rich in the eyes of a huge part of the world's population. It's one thing to just say you thank God for all He has given you, as so many people say all the time. It's another thing altogether to really feel that way and really mean it. Most people have a hard time learning to be truly thankful in their hearts for what God has already given them.
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I don't care about material comforts. Let my house and all that is in it blow away. I want connection. And it doesn't happen.
 
YosefHayim said:
I don't care about material comforts. Let my house and all that is in it blow away. I want connection. And it doesn't happen.
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It's one thing to say that, but if that happens you will find the reality of it isn't so easy to live as you seem to think. Much better to be thankful for what God has given you than to say you don't care about the things He's blessed you with. Being thankful to God would be a good first step for you to take. You will probably find, like I did at one time, that He will work out all things for good for you once you decide to be thankful for what He has already done for you.
 
Obadiah said:
It's one thing to say that, but if that happens you will find the reality of it isn't so easy to live as you seem to think. Much better to be thankful for what God has given you than to say you don't care about the things He's blessed you with. Being thankful to God would be a good first step for you to take. You will probably find, like I did at one time, that He will work out all things for good for you once you decide to be thankful for what He has already done for you.
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I've tried being thankful for the things I have. But I just don't care about the material anymore. I've contemplated saying screw it and moving to the streets. I'd be getting out more.
 
YosefHayim said:
I've tried being thankful for the things I have. But I just don't care about the material anymore. I've contemplated saying screw it and moving to the streets. I'd be getting out more.
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Ok, well, not much more I can say to try to help I guess. If you want to toss away all God has blessed you with and live homeless in the streets no one can stop you.
 
YosefHayim said:
I worry that I'll never have a girlfriend, or a wife. And I can barely socialize with my own family. I wanna move out and completely cut myself off from my family because life is going nowhere. I have no thoughts. What's the point?
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You ask "What's the point?"
We do many things in the life we've been given to seek God's favor, even to fasting which many relate to denying food to sort of put God in a corner so that He has to answer. Isa 58:4 . . to make your voice to be heard on high.

Have you really come to the point in your life that you think God has somehow failed or forsaken you? No Yosef, you have gifts evidently undiscovered, and a mission only you might perform.

Isa 58:6 Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?

Isa 58:7 Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh?
 
Eugene said:
You ask "What's the point?"
We do many things in the life we've been given to seek God's favor, even to fasting which many relate to denying food to sort of put God in a corner so that He has to answer. Isa 58:4 . . to make your voice to be heard on high.

Have you really come to the point in your life that you think God has somehow failed or forsaken you? No Yosef, you have gifts evidently undiscovered, and a mission only you might perform.

Isa 58:6 Is not this the fast that I have chosen? to loose the bands of wickedness, to undo the heavy burdens, and to let the oppressed go free, and that ye break every yoke?

Isa 58:7 Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh?
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My family already does very well without me.
 
YosefHayim said:
That's what I pray for. And nothing happens. I don't care about the American Babylonian dream. Screw the BS rat race. I don't want money. More money is more illusion. I don't want objects. I have no warmth, as scripture says: "woe to him who lies alone".
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Ever consider monasticism?
 
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