Ministry Question - What role should the Pastor's wife play in the church?

[divinecloud7]

1 Timothy 2:11 is sound advise and other passages in Timothy as well.

1 Corinthians 14:34-35 is also a guideline.......
Women<sup class="footnote" value='[a]'>[a]</sup> should remain silent in the churches. They are not allowed to speak,<sup class="crossreference" value='(A)'></sup> but must be in submission,<sup class="crossreference" value='(B)'></sup> as the law<sup class="crossreference" value='(C)'></sup> says. <sup class="versenum">35 </sup>If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home; for it is disgraceful for a woman to speak in the church.<sup class="footnote" value='[b]'>[b]</sup>

Praise be to GOD the heavenly father and his son lord JESUS CHRIST forever>>>>>>>>>>

 

[LetTheLittleChildrenCome]

I believe the most important role of a pastor's wife is to support her husband. Love him, take good care of him and feed him. Everything else is secondary...

 

[Eugene]

I believe the most important role of a pastor's wife is to support her husband. Love him, take good care of him and feed him. Everything else is secondary...

Welcome to CF.net LetTheLittleChildrenCome in Jesus' name. A help fit for the duty indeed can be as important as any gift given us by God in our different ministries.

Proverbs 31:10-12 and so many more virtues.
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

 

[Claudya]

I believe the most important role of a pastor's wife is to support her husband. Love him, take good care of him and feed him. Everything else is secondary...

Shouldn't everyone do that for his/her spouse? And a true lover would certainly take greate pleasure supporting their spouse in all things. :yes

But I disagree on "everything else is secondary". Every christian, pastor's wife or not, should have only one primary destiny: to love and serve God. Everything else, including marriage, is secondary to that.

 

[farouk]

A pastor or elder's wife kind of walks a tightrope: the conflicting expectations about her role is sometimes seen in the 'double jeopardy' nature of the criticisms which she can receive.

If in her conversation she reveals that she empathizes with a lot of Biblical doctrinal knowledge, she may be accused of being intellectual and detached from 'ordinary' people.

If she doesn't say much about Biblical doctrine she may be accused of not being supportive enough of the doctrinal aspect of her husband's ministry.

If she sings solos well, she may be accused of taking advantage of her husband's position to take the limelight.

If she doesn't sing well, she may be accused of not stressing the importance of music enough.

If she wears expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused of elitism.

If she doesn't wear expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused ot not taking the services seriously enough.

If she gets her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of spending too much money just to keep it nice and short.

If she doesn't get her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of letting her hair get too scraggy.

If she leads the catering efforts, she may be accused of not letting others in the church do their share of the catering work.

If she doesn't lead the catering efforts, she may be accused presumption that others will do it and of neglecting a necessary part of practical work in the local church.

If her ears are double pierced, she may be accused of being too fashionable.

If her ears are not double pierced, she may be accused of not being conscious enough of fashion trends.

If her grandson is in the military, she may be accused of contributing to fostering an over-militaristic ethos in the church.

If her grandson isn't in the military, she may be accused of not encouraging enough respect for the military.

If her granddaughter has a tattoo, she may be accused of not fostering conservative customs enough.

If her granddaughter doesn't have a tattoo, she may be accused of interfering with young people's freedom of self-expression.


As folk hurl their barrages of uninformed criticisms, it's just as well that Godly women in the local church are usually exercised to live and act before the Lord rather than before others and their constant criticisms.

Blessings.

 

[Eugene]

A pastor or elder's wife kind of walks a tightrope: the conflicting expectations about her role is sometimes seen in the 'double jeopardy' nature of the criticisms which she can receive.

If in her conversation she reveals that she empathizes with a lot of Biblical doctrinal knowledge, she may be accused of being intellectual and detached from 'ordinary' people.

If she doesn't say much about Biblical doctrine she may be accused of not being supportive enough of the doctrinal aspect of her husband's ministry.

If she sings solos well, she may be accused of taking advantage of her husband's position to take the limelight.

If she doesn't sing well, she may be accused of not stressing the importance of music enough.

If she wears expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused of elitism.

If she doesn't wear expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused ot not taking the services seriously enough.

If she gets her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of spending too much money just to keep it nice and short.

If she doesn't get her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of letting her hair get too scraggy.

If she leads the catering efforts, she may be accused of not letting others in the church do their share of the catering work.

If she doesn't lead the catering efforts, she may be accused presumption that others will do it and of neglecting a necessary part of practical work in the local church.

If her ears are double pierced, she may be accused of being too fashionable.

If her ears are not double pierced, she may be accused of not being conscious enough of fashion trends.

If her grandson is in the military, she may be accused of contributing to fostering an over-militaristic ethos in the church.

If her grandson isn't in the military, she may be accused of not encouraging enough respect for the military.

If her granddaughter has a tattoo, she may be accused of not fostering conservative customs enough.

If her granddaughter doesn't have a tattoo, she may be accused of interfering with young people's freedom of self-expression.


As folk hurl their barrages of uninformed criticisms, it's just as well that Godly women in the local church are usually exercised to live and act before the Lord rather than before others and their constant criticisms.

Blessings.

Maybe this is why they're referred to as PW's; preacher's wives or prisoners of war, and we're back to tattoos?

 

[farouk]

A pastor or elder's wife kind of walks a tightrope: the conflicting expectations about her role is sometimes seen in the 'double jeopardy' nature of the criticisms which she can receive.

If in her conversation she reveals that she empathizes with a lot of Biblical doctrinal knowledge, she may be accused of being intellectual and detached from 'ordinary' people.

If she doesn't say much about Biblical doctrine she may be accused of not being supportive enough of the doctrinal aspect of her husband's ministry.

If she sings solos well, she may be accused of taking advantage of her husband's position to take the limelight.

If she doesn't sing well, she may be accused of not stressing the importance of music enough.

If she wears expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused of elitism.

If she doesn't wear expensive clothes to church services, she may be accused ot not taking the services seriously enough.

If she gets her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of spending too much money just to keep it nice and short.

If she doesn't get her hair cut every two weeks, she may be accused of letting her hair get too scraggy.

If she leads the catering efforts, she may be accused of not letting others in the church do their share of the catering work.

If she doesn't lead the catering efforts, she may be accused presumption that others will do it and of neglecting a necessary part of practical work in the local church.

If her ears are double pierced, she may be accused of being too fashionable.

If her ears are not double pierced, she may be accused of not being conscious enough of fashion trends.

If her grandson is in the military, she may be accused of contributing to fostering an over-militaristic ethos in the church.

If her grandson isn't in the military, she may be accused of not encouraging enough respect for the military.

If her granddaughter has a tattoo, she may be accused of not fostering conservative customs enough.

If her granddaughter doesn't have a tattoo, she may be accused of interfering with young people's freedom of self-expression.


As folk hurl their barrages of uninformed criticisms, it's just as well that Godly women in the local church are usually exercised to live and act before the Lord rather than before others and their constant criticisms.

Blessings.

Maybe this is why they're referred to as PW's; preacher's wives or prisoners of war.

Eugene:

Yes, indeed; part of it is being able to keep clear-headed and focused prayerfully on long term spiritual objectives, when folk start heaping unfair comments and unfounded accusations at them.

Blessings.

 

[farouk]

Here's another one to add to the list! (in the light of the other thread)

If she wears lipstick, she may be accused of drawing attention to herself.

If she doesn't wear lipstick, she may be accused of drawing attention to herself by not wearing lipstick.

(And so it goes... )

 

[reba]

yup Farouk

 

[farouk]

yup Farouk

reba:

Therein lie the contemporary and old fashioned viewpoints, right? Years ago, some people (if they would even admit it) thought lipstick and pierced ears drew attention to a woman in church. A more contemporary view might be to say that some people (if, again, they would even admit it) think for a woman not to have pierced ears and wear a little lipstick in church actually draws attention to her.

And so it goes: it's really good that the Lord doesn't dwell on whatever may be the latest, transient prejudice!

Blessings.

 

[reba]

I used to joke a pentecostal woman had to be 10 years behind the times fashion wise....Darn right lipstick was a sin... harlot ...I tried cherry juice

 

[farouk]

I used to joke a pentecostal woman had to be 10 years behind the times fashion wise....Darn right lipstick was a sin... harlot ...I tried cherry juice

reba: You mean, wear only double pierced ears when triples were already in fashion?

Blessings.

 

[farouk]

The emphasis should of course be about putting on the whole armour of God (Ephesians 6), and not about the jewelry and cosmetics that she puts on.