[__ Prayer __] My wife hates me. A rundown of our marriage. Prayer request

[username1488]

Hi brothers and sisters, please pray for my wife and me, for our souls, mention us in your prayers sometimes. I'll get straight into it, it's not the shortest text, hopefully not the longest also.

I met my wife on a dating site and we got married soon after we started talking. We live in the UK, neither of us are from here, I moved from my country to the UK about 2 years before meeting my wife on the Christian dating site, as I mentioned we got married soon after we started talking so she moved from her country to the UK.

Before we got married she mentioned that she would like to go back to her country after marrying me so she could study/ get some certificates etc. to help her with her future jobs. I agreed so she went back for a few months shortly after we got married.

Soon after going back she began to start issues every week via text/ call, I don't think there was even 10 days without an argument. To this day I have no idea what many of the issues were about, she would just say that I'm "lustful and deceitful". She said she's not coming back to which I replied that it's entirely up to her, we would fight and make up constantly.

She finished what she was there for and came back to me, regardless of everything I was awaiting my wife with excitement and alot of love in my heart for her, I picked her up from the airport and we had a good time.

She knew the passcode of my phone (but would not tell me hers) and started to browse my emails, pictures, call history on the phone and messaging apps (Viber, WhatsApp) in the hopes to find something, to catch me cheating on her somehow. One time I had to call a number on my phone that she was insisting I was exchanging flirty texts with, it was not true and who ended up picking up was my grandad. There were multiple similar occasions and although she was wrong every time she never considered that I'm not "lustful and deceitful".

She started to insist that I'm "lusting after teen girls". First it was young women, then she changed it to teen girls. She has called me many things, including a "peadophile". At one point she said she's considering calling the police so someone watches me and puts something on my phone "lest a girl gets hurt". It took me a while but I realized that she was actually insisting that I would cheat on her with these girls she's talking about. We would fight and make up constantly. I invited her to come to my country to meet my parents and have a good time there, she refused, saying that she can't come because I'll "keep looking" at women/ girls and keep lusting and she'll get very hurt. I went to my country for about 2 weeks by myself but little did I know that at some point before I went she installed a parenting app on my phone to monitor my activity. She completely denied installing the app on my phone. It was her who installed it and she again didn't manage to find anything sinister.

Later on she started to do something new when arguing, hitting me. She would slap and sometimes punch me as hard as she can and would claim that she is defending herself. She would twist the situation and almost try to make her behaviour my fault. She has cursed at me many times and I also cursed her out which I'm not proud of. If I push her off me when she gets physically violent she would exaggerate as much as she can and start claiming that I've hurt her, it's a one hand push that is not meant to hurt her at all, I've never hit her back. She has told me that she hates me in our last big argument, she has told me that she doesn't love me before but now the "I hate you" thing really hit hard.

She would twist situations but would often call me a manipulator and would insist that I'm the one twisting. I used to try to reason with her and to ask her to calm down and talk normally but that would agitate her even more and the only way she would talk normally is if she first tries to get her point across in a very angry and disrespectful way. She sent me Instagram videos about "men don't need respect" and told me that I want respect I didn't deserve. I think I loved her thorough everything regardless if she deserved it or not.

Unfortunately there are many more things I can say but no need and this post is long enough already, not sure if anyone would read it all.

I came to the UK after The Lord called me and gave me power to overcome sins and start preaching to people, everyone back home thought I was crazy when they've seen the positive change in me and when they heard the things I started saying. It was hard in the beginning (when I came in the UK) but I thought I was doing the right thing by changing my environment and preaching/ reaching people here. I want to serve God in any way I can but haven't been fruitful lately. I think (and I pray that's the case) that I love Him more than anything and anyone.

Didn't think I'll say it but I've kind of lost the will to live lately with all that stuff, I think there's strong influence from demonic forces that are trying to destroy my wife and me. I'm NOT suggesting suicide and I'm NOT considering it.

Please pray for me and for my wife, for our souls.

Praise The Lord Jesus Christ.

 

[journeymanisnothing]

Hello username1488.
Our Savior said people in the same house would be divided because of him. I know what it feels like to be hated for no good reason by someone you love.
You're right that demons influence humans to curse God, but in spite of their evil intentions, God will turn this into an opportunity to conform you into the image of his Son.
So hang in there. Continue to show the love of our Savior to people who hate you. And may God bless you and everything you touch.

 

[JLB]

Hi brothers and sisters, please pray for my wife and me, for our souls, mention us in your prayers sometimes. I'll get straight into it, it's not the shortest text, hopefully not the longest also.

I met my wife on a dating site and we got married soon after we started talking. We live in the UK, neither of us are from here, I moved from my country to the UK about 2 years before meeting my wife on the Christian dating site, as I mentioned we got married soon after we started talking so she moved from her country to the UK.

Before we got married she mentioned that she would like to go back to her country after marrying me so she could study/ get some certificates etc. to help her with her future jobs. I agreed so she went back for a few months shortly after we got married.

Soon after going back she began to start issues every week via text/ call, I don't think there was even 10 days without an argument. To this day I have no idea what many of the issues were about, she would just say that I'm "lustful and deceitful". She said she's not coming back to which I replied that it's entirely up to her, we would fight and make up constantly.

She finished what she was there for and came back to me, regardless of everything I was awaiting my wife with excitement and alot of love in my heart for her, I picked her up from the airport and we had a good time.

She knew the passcode of my phone (but would not tell me hers) and started to browse my emails, pictures, call history on the phone and messaging apps (Viber, WhatsApp) in the hopes to find something, to catch me cheating on her somehow. One time I had to call a number on my phone that she was insisting I was exchanging flirty texts with, it was not true and who ended up picking up was my grandad. There were multiple similar occasions and although she was wrong every time she never considered that I'm not "lustful and deceitful".

She started to insist that I'm "lusting after teen girls". First it was young women, then she changed it to teen girls. She has called me many things, including a "peadophile". At one point she said she's considering calling the police so someone watches me and puts something on my phone "lest a girl gets hurt". It took me a while but I realized that she was actually insisting that I would cheat on her with these girls she's talking about. We would fight and make up constantly. I invited her to come to my country to meet my parents and have a good time there, she refused, saying that she can't come because I'll "keep looking" at women/ girls and keep lusting and she'll get very hurt. I went to my country for about 2 weeks by myself but little did I know that at some point before I went she installed a parenting app on my phone to monitor my activity. She completely denied installing the app on my phone. It was her who installed it and she again didn't manage to find anything sinister.

Later on she started to do something new when arguing, hitting me. She would slap and sometimes punch me as hard as she can and would claim that she is defending herself. She would twist the situation and almost try to make her behaviour my fault. She has cursed at me many times and I also cursed her out which I'm not proud of. If I push her off me when she gets physically violent she would exaggerate as much as she can and start claiming that I've hurt her, it's a one hand push that is not meant to hurt her at all, I've never hit her back. She has told me that she hates me in our last big argument, she has told me that she doesn't love me before but now the "I hate you" thing really hit hard.

She would twist situations but would often call me a manipulator and would insist that I'm the one twisting. I used to try to reason with her and to ask her to calm down and talk normally but that would agitate her even more and the only way she would talk normally is if she first tries to get her point across in a very angry and disrespectful way. She sent me Instagram videos about "men don't need respect" and told me that I want respect I didn't deserve. I think I loved her thorough everything regardless if she deserved it or not.

Unfortunately there are many more things I can say but no need and this post is long enough already, not sure if anyone would read it all.

I came to the UK after The Lord called me and gave me power to overcome sins and start preaching to people, everyone back home thought I was crazy when they've seen the positive change in me and when they heard the things I started saying. It was hard in the beginning (when I came in the UK) but I thought I was doing the right thing by changing my environment and preaching/ reaching people here. I want to serve God in any way I can but haven't been fruitful lately. I think (and I pray that's the case) that I love Him more than anything and anyone.

Didn't think I'll say it but I've kind of lost the will to live lately with all that stuff, I think there's strong influence from demonic forces that are trying to destroy my wife and me. I'm NOT suggesting suicide and I'm NOT considering it.

Please pray for me and for my wife, for our souls.

Praise The Lord Jesus Christ.

You as the authority in your home and the head of your wife must begin to consistently intercede for her, and take authority over the unclean spirits influencing your wife with evil thoughts that twist and pervert the reality of your conversations to drive you apart and divide you. To undermine the passion you have to serve the Lord.


You both need godly counseling from a minister who understands these things.


God bless you and keep you.





JLB

 

[Dorothy Mae]

Hi brothers and sisters, please pray for my wife and me, for our souls, mention us in your prayers sometimes. I'll get straight into it, it's not the shortest text, hopefully not the longest also.

I met my wife on a dating site and we got married soon after we started talking. We live in the UK, neither of us are from here, I moved from my country to the UK about 2 years before meeting my wife on the Christian dating site, as I mentioned we got married soon after we started talking so she moved from her country to the UK.

Before we got married she mentioned that she would like to go back to her country after marrying me so she could study/ get some certificates etc. to help her with her future jobs. I agreed so she went back for a few months shortly after we got married.

Soon after going back she began to start issues every week via text/ call, I don't think there was even 10 days without an argument. To this day I have no idea what many of the issues were about, she would just say that I'm "lustful and deceitful". She said she's not coming back to which I replied that it's entirely up to her, we would fight and make up constantly.

She finished what she was there for and came back to me, regardless of everything I was awaiting my wife with excitement and alot of love in my heart for her, I picked her up from the airport and we had a good time.

She knew the passcode of my phone (but would not tell me hers) and started to browse my emails, pictures, call history on the phone and messaging apps (Viber, WhatsApp) in the hopes to find something, to catch me cheating on her somehow. One time I had to call a number on my phone that she was insisting I was exchanging flirty texts with, it was not true and who ended up picking up was my grandad. There were multiple similar occasions and although she was wrong every time she never considered that I'm not "lustful and deceitful".

She started to insist that I'm "lusting after teen girls". First it was young women, then she changed it to teen girls. She has called me many things, including a "peadophile". At one point she said she's considering calling the police so someone watches me and puts something on my phone "lest a girl gets hurt". It took me a while but I realized that she was actually insisting that I would cheat on her with these girls she's talking about. We would fight and make up constantly. I invited her to come to my country to meet my parents and have a good time there, she refused, saying that she can't come because I'll "keep looking" at women/ girls and keep lusting and she'll get very hurt. I went to my country for about 2 weeks by myself but little did I know that at some point before I went she installed a parenting app on my phone to monitor my activity. She completely denied installing the app on my phone. It was her who installed it and she again didn't manage to find anything sinister.

Later on she started to do something new when arguing, hitting me. She would slap and sometimes punch me as hard as she can and would claim that she is defending herself. She would twist the situation and almost try to make her behaviour my fault. She has cursed at me many times and I also cursed her out which I'm not proud of. If I push her off me when she gets physically violent she would exaggerate as much as she can and start claiming that I've hurt her, it's a one hand push that is not meant to hurt her at all, I've never hit her back. She has told me that she hates me in our last big argument, she has told me that she doesn't love me before but now the "I hate you" thing really hit hard.

She would twist situations but would often call me a manipulator and would insist that I'm the one twisting. I used to try to reason with her and to ask her to calm down and talk normally but that would agitate her even more and the only way she would talk normally is if she first tries to get her point across in a very angry and disrespectful way. She sent me Instagram videos about "men don't need respect" and told me that I want respect I didn't deserve. I think I loved her thorough everything regardless if she deserved it or not.

Unfortunately there are many more things I can say but no need and this post is long enough already, not sure if anyone would read it all.

I came to the UK after The Lord called me and gave me power to overcome sins and start preaching to people, everyone back home thought I was crazy when they've seen the positive change in me and when they heard the things I started saying. It was hard in the beginning (when I came in the UK) but I thought I was doing the right thing by changing my environment and preaching/ reaching people here. I want to serve God in any way I can but haven't been fruitful lately. I think (and I pray that's the case) that I love Him more than anything and anyone.

Didn't think I'll say it but I've kind of lost the will to live lately with all that stuff, I think there's strong influence from demonic forces that are trying to destroy my wife and me. I'm NOT suggesting suicide and I'm NOT considering it.

Please pray for me and for my wife, for our souls.

Praise The Lord Jesus Christ.

Your situation is indeed pretty terrible. Probably the best way to go forward is to see the mistakes made in the past and do differently. The biggest mistake is marrying someone after so little time together and there doesn't seem to be any indication that you asked God for a mate and prayed that way. You did it all on your own and it is not turning out well.

So what to do now? My suggestion is, and I will pray this way, that you take time to seek the Lord and ask Him for direction. There is likely some repenting that needs to be done to clean the heart. But He can take any situation given to Him and make something good as long as the participants are obedient to what He wants them to do. This is what you need to ascertain. I agree some demonic activity is there but you will have no authority to deal with until you surrender your life to the Lord and agree to live as He directs, not your will, including have no mate. That needs to be surrendered as well.

You have made a mess of your life by not obeying the Lord which has lead to the enemy stealing the joy of life you had. Change your ways and ask Him what you are to do. Seek Him until you hear his direction in your current situation. No situation is so bad God cannot redeem it.

Praying for you brother.

 

[Chosen808]

Hi brothers and sisters, please pray for my wife and me, for our souls, mention us in your prayers sometimes. I'll get straight into it, it's not the shortest text, hopefully not the longest also.

I met my wife on a dating site and we got married soon after we started talking. We live in the UK, neither of us are from here, I moved from my country to the UK about 2 years before meeting my wife on the Christian dating site, as I mentioned we got married soon after we started talking so she moved from her country to the UK.

Before we got married she mentioned that she would like to go back to her country after marrying me so she could study/ get some certificates etc. to help her with her future jobs. I agreed so she went back for a few months shortly after we got married.

Soon after going back she began to start issues every week via text/ call, I don't think there was even 10 days without an argument. To this day I have no idea what many of the issues were about, she would just say that I'm "lustful and deceitful". She said she's not coming back to which I replied that it's entirely up to her, we would fight and make up constantly.

She finished what she was there for and came back to me, regardless of everything I was awaiting my wife with excitement and alot of love in my heart for her, I picked her up from the airport and we had a good time.

She knew the passcode of my phone (but would not tell me hers) and started to browse my emails, pictures, call history on the phone and messaging apps (Viber, WhatsApp) in the hopes to find something, to catch me cheating on her somehow. One time I had to call a number on my phone that she was insisting I was exchanging flirty texts with, it was not true and who ended up picking up was my grandad. There were multiple similar occasions and although she was wrong every time she never considered that I'm not "lustful and deceitful".

She started to insist that I'm "lusting after teen girls". First it was young women, then she changed it to teen girls. She has called me many things, including a "peadophile". At one point she said she's considering calling the police so someone watches me and puts something on my phone "lest a girl gets hurt". It took me a while but I realized that she was actually insisting that I would cheat on her with these girls she's talking about. We would fight and make up constantly. I invited her to come to my country to meet my parents and have a good time there, she refused, saying that she can't come because I'll "keep looking" at women/ girls and keep lusting and she'll get very hurt. I went to my country for about 2 weeks by myself but little did I know that at some point before I went she installed a parenting app on my phone to monitor my activity. She completely denied installing the app on my phone. It was her who installed it and she again didn't manage to find anything sinister.

Later on she started to do something new when arguing, hitting me. She would slap and sometimes punch me as hard as she can and would claim that she is defending herself. She would twist the situation and almost try to make her behaviour my fault. She has cursed at me many times and I also cursed her out which I'm not proud of. If I push her off me when she gets physically violent she would exaggerate as much as she can and start claiming that I've hurt her, it's a one hand push that is not meant to hurt her at all, I've never hit her back. She has told me that she hates me in our last big argument, she has told me that she doesn't love me before but now the "I hate you" thing really hit hard.

She would twist situations but would often call me a manipulator and would insist that I'm the one twisting. I used to try to reason with her and to ask her to calm down and talk normally but that would agitate her even more and the only way she would talk normally is if she first tries to get her point across in a very angry and disrespectful way. She sent me Instagram videos about "men don't need respect" and told me that I want respect I didn't deserve. I think I loved her thorough everything regardless if she deserved it or not.

Unfortunately there are many more things I can say but no need and this post is long enough already, not sure if anyone would read it all.

I came to the UK after The Lord called me and gave me power to overcome sins and start preaching to people, everyone back home thought I was crazy when they've seen the positive change in me and when they heard the things I started saying. It was hard in the beginning (when I came in the UK) but I thought I was doing the right thing by changing my environment and preaching/ reaching people here. I want to serve God in any way I can but haven't been fruitful lately. I think (and I pray that's the case) that I love Him more than anything and anyone.

Didn't think I'll say it but I've kind of lost the will to live lately with all that stuff, I think there's strong influence from demonic forces that are trying to destroy my wife and me. I'm NOT suggesting suicide and I'm NOT considering it.

Please pray for me and for my wife, for our souls.

Praise The Lord Jesus Christ.

Prayed for your marriage and the salvation of your souls.

 

[citrus]

She is paranoid and she is broken. Mostly broken. Has she broke down and cry before you? Either she us really broken and hurting or she is an unstable woman who has assaulted you. Ask her about marriage counseling. If she says no than maybe it is in best both of your interests to leave eachother.

 

[citrus]

It isn't right for her to assault you. I can see if she breaks down crying in the middle of it. Not being manipulative just crying or maybe it is time for a divorce
She needs to let go of something in her life and let go of the reigns on you so you can embrace her. Or maybe she is very mentally ill and it be best a divorce. I don't know. I'm not there. Just see what her response would be about counseling. If she isn't doing her part and you are doing yours she is the one in the wrong. And you need to get out. Just because shevis a woman and you can't hit her doesn't mean she can do it to you.

 

[daninthelionsden]

I'll keep this short and direct. Your wife is accusing you of what she herself is guilty of. She accused you to cover up. She hides her phone because of the proof it contains of her own infidelity. Look up YouTube videos of dealing with toxic narcissistic people. You will see she matches those characteristics. Grab her phone and have it analyzed so you can make an informed decision. This will continue until you catch her. Speaking from experience.