Need help with a relationship and limits

[LostButFound]

(Repost just wanted more opinions)
Hello,
So I am 20 years old and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now. In the beginning of the relationship we did some sexual activities but never took part in actual intercourse. Not too long ago I realized that all of this was wrong in the eyes of the Lord so I decided to change my life around and stop with the sexual activities. We both agreed we will wait until marriage for any more of those actions.

Now the problem now is how far is too far in a Christian relationship. Some say its too far with just kissing or cuddling. My girlfriend and I kiss, hug, and cuddle. I think that too far is when you let your those feelings take control and causes you to do things that you shouldn't be doing and that as long as you have control over yourself and have the ability to tell yourself that things are going too far then it should be okay. I always stay at the point where I feel just comfortable with her and if it starts to feel like its too much, I usually tell her we have to stop.

It is tough because I am really attracted to her, but after the mistakes of going too far before I turned my life around, I can tell when it is getting to too much. So right now all we usually do is kiss, hug, cuddle, and sometimes touch (but not on genital area or anywhere too sensitive). I always keep in mind that I don't want to return to what we did before and that I will wait until marriage so it is much easier to tell when it gets closer to the edge.

Thanks guys
God bless

 

[grovenored]

A tough problem, though it sounds like you have your head on straight, so I'm not too worried

I would say that it's not "where is the line?" but "when is the time?" and that time is marriage. There are many things that, if you really check your heart about, you'll know are things that are to be kept for marriage. They can be from the obvious, such as sexual intercourse, to the seemingly mundane, such as sleeping in the same bed. I would say anything that causes you to stumble or is tempting you to go further, and thus too far, is a no-no.
Really, you need to check your lust. If something causes you to lust, or yearn for "the next level", then cut it out.
Paul says it this way in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 -
"God’s will is for you to be holy, so stay away from all sexual sin. Then each of you will control his own body and live in holiness and honour — not in lustful passion like the pagans who do not know God and his ways."

I hope this helps you, bro. Keep up the attitude of wanting to honour your girl and please your Lord

God bless.